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Why I Dislike Social Media

I’ve always had a love/hate relationship with social media, on one hand I think social media helps so much with starting and creating your own brand & business whether that’s promoting your products and business or showcasing the skills and talent you have.

On the other hand, I just view social media as this perfect representation of how life is supposed to be in terms of lifestyle, materialistic things, relationships, etc. I know that people are only showing their best moments or a series of highlights but it doesn’t help the fact that I do think sometimes I only see an illusion and not the reality.

J’ai toujours eu une relation amour/haine avec les médias sociaux. D’un côté, je pense que les médias sociaux vous aident beaucoup à créer votre propre marque et votre propre entreprise, qu’il s’agisse de promouvoir vos produits et votre entreprise ou de mettre en valeur vos compétences et votre talent.

D’autre part, je considère simplement les médias sociaux comme une représentation parfaite de la façon dont la vie est supposée être en termes de style de vie, de choses matérialistes, de relations, etc. Je sais que les gens ne montrent que leurs meilleurs moments ou une série de moments parfaits mais cela n’aide pas le fait que je pense parfois que je ne vois qu’une illusion et non la réalité.

Related: Trying Something New With My Social Media

 

BEING OPEN

One of the things people really like when it comes to Instagram or Twitter is people being open which I’m not going to lie, this is what I really like to see as well. Even for someone who doesn’t share my blog in real life, I don’t have a problem sharing my insecurities or what I’m going through online.

I’ve shared my anxiety and some of my not-so-good experiences on my blog but I don’t like the idea of sharing it on social media, if that makes any sense. I view my blog as my online diary and my followers as my online friends but with social media – it’s the complete opposite.

You don’t really know ‘who’ someone is and there are literally thousands, if not millions of users on those platforms. Something you share might get taken out of context or reach people who create unnecessary dramas.

As I’ve said before, this year I’m trying to be more open and transparent on my blog and I’m trying to do the same way on social media as well. Most of the times, me being open isn’t always about sharing positive or uplifting things, it’s mostly about negative things which I don’t want my readers/followers to feel like I’m moaning or being negative.

Real life is stressfulll and very complicated that’s one of the reasons why we escape to social media, literally to forget what’s on our mind for a few minutes. And seeing this picture-perfect life of so many people can make you question your life. I do want to share more of myself without crossing the line. I definitely want to share good and bad things because that’s what life really looks like, doesn’t it?

Une des choses que les gens aiment vraiment quand il s’agit d’Instagram ou de Twitter, c’est que les gens sont ouverts, ce que je ne vais pas mentir, c’est ce que j’aime aussi beaucoup voir. Même pour quelqu’un qui ne partage pas mon blog dans la vraie vie, je n’ai aucun problème à partager mes insécurités ou ce que je vis en ligne.

J’ai partagé mon anxiété et certaines de mes expériences pas très bonnes sur mon blog mais je n’aime pas l’idée de les partager sur les réseaux sociaux, si cela a du sens. Je considère mon blog comme mon journal en ligne et mes abonnés comme mes amis en ligne, mais avec les médias sociaux – c’est tout le contraire.

Vous ne savez pas vraiment qui est cette personne et il y a littéralement des milliers, voire des millions d’utilisateurs sur ces plates-formes. Quelque chose que vous partagez peut sortir de son contexte ou toucher des gens qui créent des drames inutiles.

Comme je l’ai déjà dit, cette année, j’essaie d’être plus ouverte et transparente sur mon blog et j’essaie de faire de même avec les médias sociaux. La plupart du temps, mon ouverture ne consiste pas toujours à partager des choses positives, mais plutôt des choses négatives pour lesquelles je ne veux pas que mes lecteurs/suiveurs se sentent comme si j’étais négatif.

La vraie vie est stressante et très compliquée, c’est l’une des raisons pour lesquelles nous nous échappons dans les médias sociaux, littéralement pour oublier ce que nous avons en tête pendant quelques minutes. Et voir cette vie parfaite de nombreuses personnes peut vous inciter à remettre en question votre vie. Je veux partager plus de moi sans franchir la ligne. Je veux vraiment partager de bonnes et de mauvaises choses parce que c’est à quoi ressemble vraiment la vie, n’est-ce pas?

 

PICTURES OF MYSELF

I don’t post any of my pictures on my blog nor on my social media but that’s literally what people want to see. Many bloggers/influencers will admit that pictures of themselves do so well in terms of numbers compared to pictures that you put so much time and effort into it, for instance flatlays or creative pictures.

I’m not saying that the only way to get followers and likes is to show your face, there are so many successful accounts who don’t and they are doing extremely well in terms of numbers. However people who show their faces are most likely to get more attention than someone who doesn’t which is sadly the truth.

In my opinion, I’d rather follow and interact with someone who has a nice personality than a nice ‘face’ and I literally don’t say that in a disrespectful way. Once you see so many people’s true colours, you realise appearance is the literally the last thing people are going to remember you for. People will remember the way you made them feel not the way you looked liked which is definitely another story to talk about.

Back to the topic, I don’t think I’m going to share my face but never say never. However I really want to share more of my creative side and do ‘creative’ pictures. I really want to enhance my photography skills and create my own style of feed/theme.

Je ne publie aucune de mes photos sur mon blog ni sur mes médias sociaux, mais c’est littéralement ce que les gens veulent voir. De nombreux blogueurs/influenceuses admettront que leurs images se débrouillent très bien en chiffres par rapport aux images pour lesquelles vous avez mis tant d’efforts et de temps, par exemple des flatlays ou des images créatives.

Je ne dis pas que le seul moyen d’obtenir des adeptes et des likes est de se montrer, il y a tellement de comptes qui réussissent qui ne le font pas et ils réussissent extrêmement bien en termes de chiffres. Cependant, les personnes qui montrent leurs visages sont plus susceptibles d’attirer plus d’attention que ceux qui ne le font pas, ce qui est malheureusement la vérité.

À mon avis, je préfère suivre et interagir avec quelqu’un qui a une belle personnalité qu’un joli “visage” et je ne le dis littéralement pas d’une manière irrespectueuse. Une fois que vous voyez les vraies couleurs de nombreuses personnes, vous réalisez que l’apparence est littéralement la dernière chose dont les gens se souviendront de vous. Les gens se souviendront de ce que vous leur avez fait ressentir et non de la façon dont vous semblez, ce qui est certainement une autre histoire à raconter.

Revenons au sujet, je ne pense pas que je vais partager mon visage mais ne jamais dire jamais. Cependant, je souhaite vraiment partager davantage de mon côté créatif et faire des images “créatives”. Je souhaite vraiment améliorer mes compétences en photographie et créer mon propre style de flux/thème.

 

THE PERFECT LIFE

As I’ve mentioned above, everyone shows their best moments or highlights of their life which I’m all for but sometimes you do forget that you’re only watching someone’s social media platform and not their real life.

You don’t really know what’s happening behind closed doors and social media is definitely not the actual representation of someone’s life. But at the same time, it’s not the place to share your problems or issues either.

However with that said, I really want to use social media as an online diary, the same way I use my blog. I want to share all my milestones, moments, experiences and lessons. I don’t want my feed to create an illusion that my life is perfect, I want to share my journey with you – probably because I don’t want to feel alone when I embark on a new chapter lol!

Comme je l’ai mentionné ci-dessus, tout le monde montre ses meilleurs moments de sa vie mais parfois, vous oubliez que vous ne regardez que la plate-forme de médias sociaux de quelqu’un et non sa vraie vie.

Vous ne savez pas vraiment ce qui se passe et les médias sociaux ne sont certainement pas la représentation réelle de la vie de quelqu’un. Mais en même temps, ce n’est pas l’endroit idéal pour partager vos problèmes non plus.

Cela dit, je souhaite vraiment utiliser les médias sociaux comme journal intime en ligne, de la même manière que j’utilise mon blog. Je veux partager tous mes moments, expériences et leçons. Je ne veux pas que mon flux crée l’illusion que ma vie est parfaite, je veux partager mon parcours avec vous – probablement parce que je ne veux pas me sentir seul lorsque je m’embarque dans un nouveau chapitre, lol!

 

I know this post might be all over the place (lol!). Anyway, I’ve never really been a fan of social media other than for watching cute cat videos or for inspiration but as a blogger, I do think you have to take advantage of it. I’m going to try to do all the things I’ve mentioned in this post, being more open and transparent and sharing my creative side with my photography.

Je sais que ce post pourrait être partout (lol!). Quoi qu’il en soit, je n’ai jamais vraiment été fan des médias sociaux autrement que pour regarder des vidéos de chats mignons ou pour trouver de l’inspiration, mais en tant que blogueur, je pense que vous devez en tirer parti. Je vais essayer de faire tout ce que j’ai mentionné dans ce billet, en étant plus ouverte et transparente et en partageant mon côté créatif avec ma photographie.

 

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR READING!

xo N

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70 Comments

  1. You are not alone N. Most times what people post on social media is just the side they want other people to see (It does not mean that they are not happy in real life though)

  2. Thank you for sharing your views – I don’t like the fact that nowadays so many people equal numbers/popularity with quality and actual skills. Obviously I would like my blog/Instagram account to reach as many people as possible, but it’s difficult when others are buying likes and using shady tactics I’m not even aware of. The whole algorithm is based on popularity. Instagram can be a great creative/promotion tool as well, but I see so many repetitive accounts succeeding.

  3. This! I’ve taken a break from social media and I’m living my best life I have time to read, look after myself and my mental health! I relax more and I’m not so pent up on the worlds anger or my self image anymore! X

  4. Amazing, some people without taking time to understand you can throw shade on social media. I’m actually careful with what I post. Sometimes you can’t blame us when we show only a particular side of ourselves. It’s because social media is just too wide including the good and bad people.

  5. Agreed. And it is all okay and needed to be transparent in life and in social media. We don’t need to be fake to fit in. And we should never make the mistake of comparing the “edited life” people put on social media with our “behind the scenes”.
    Have a wonderful day my friend ❤️

  6. You’re not alone. I have yet to show my face on my blog or linked social media, but I’m constantly being asked for photos of me. I refuse, as this is about my writing, not my looks.

    As I’m writing under a pseudonym, I’m braver in talking about the negative aspects, and that has got a lot of people thanking me. They realise they aren’t alone in having chaotic days, and it makes them feel better.

    It’s not all roses and candy x

    1. The only reason I don’t show my face is for privacy reasons and I wholeheartedly agree with the fact that at the end of the day, it’s all about your writing and not your looks. And I completely agree with everything else you’ve said x

  7. I feel this one, social media makes you feel like “you are not good enough” and “you can’t have enough” that’s a wierd position to put yourself in, it’s like a drug you become addicted to comparing your life with others, before you know it you are buying stuff you can’t afford, you’re seeking validation.. a few like makes you feel like something is wrong with you, not to mention the bad vibes from cyber bullies, these platforms can mess up if your not careful

  8. About personal photographs, I have always enjoyed following your blog without knowing what you look like. However, I have on many occasions been curious. I guess “seeing faces” will always be regarded as an added pleasure to the whole experience of being connected online. It is just human nature. Thanks for sharing.

    1. Hahah the only reason why I don’t share my full face is for privacy reasons. I like to keep my personal/professional life private from my blog but you never know, I might decide to share my face in the future 🤷🏻‍♀️ Thanks for reading!

  9. It is all about balance, and I find it by having fun.
    At some point you have to be negative, and crude, and ugly, otherwise you become a plastic doll. If “people” dont like it, so be it, those numbers mean nothing, I rather grow in artistic skills.

  10. I understand what you’re saying in this post. I’m not on Instagram as much as I used to be because I’m sorry, it’s seems to be ‘look at me living my best life in Santorini, Barcelona , or Bali.” Sorry, this old gal is living her best life right here waiting for a Greyhound bus to Pittsburgh or a flight to Los Angeles or Las Vegas . I show my face in my blogs because after the Good Lord has blessed me living up to 66years, yes I’m going to tell the world just what the Sports Diva looks like. As for you not showing your face on your blogs or social media , that’s okay. I love reading your posts and don’t care what you look like .

  11. I’ve had a little trouble with social media and will agree with you that it is a lot to handle. The most important thing however, is to be happy with yourself in whatever you do. If posting or not posting pictures is what makes you happy, then do it.

  12. I can really relate to this post particularly about how I keep my blog private from social media. Part of it is fear social media friends aren’t interested in my writing. It also took me a long time to post pictures of myself on my blog and I don’t do it very often. I am trying to do things a little differently to see how it feels including sharing blog posts on social media. I am definitely for showing my true colors wherever and I even tend to share some of the times when life isn’t going so great.

  13. WordPress and Pinterest are the only social media I really use now! WordPress is more positive on average than Facebook and Twitter and Pinterest is where I get a lot of my hobby ideas.

  14. Social media ironically takes away a life from us. Imagine how many hours in a day we would save on average if we did not have social media in our lives? The anxiety? The stress? Yet we still take things for granted.

    I also view my blog as an online diary too although I guess the difference is that I have shared my face. Despite so, I think it’s important to set limitations on what you want to present whilst also making sure you’re not posting fairy tale stories.

  15. Its very interesting post indeed. My idea about social media is to make a ,,show,, for a people..I don’t think social media are good for ur personal problems or life..I guess people wanna have a fun there and see the highlights of life instead of seeing a sad things..dont u think ?well.its definitely nothing against you its just my thoughts 🙂

  16. Agreed. I’m hesitating to post a “before/after” close-up of my face for a skincare product I tried. My photos aren’t as “pretty” as what I typically see, so my post has been on the back burner.

  17. Reblogged this on Black Mirror and commented:
    she shares her reason why she does what she does on social media. one of her big talks was her not wanting to show her whole face on social media. which is cool in a way

  18. I’ve recently decided to take an indefinite break from all of my social media accounts. While they are admittedly great for networking and exposure they were causing way too much drama and anxiety in my life. I used to be a twitch streamer and artist and would rely heavily on social media. Also, you hit the nail on the head with not knowing people on social media. I recently got out of a bad relationship with someone I met on social media and it was a real eye opener.

    1. I’m so sorry to hear that! I totally agree with you, there are so many positive aspects from social media but the negatives are bad as well. I hope you are doing well now ❤️ Thanks for reading x

  19. Enjoyed reading your post and do agree as well. When I stop to think, it is true that social media is enticing, interesting, fascinating, useful and many more positive aspects. But I also feel that it just pulls you in and holds you if you don’t have an inner control. It can just steal your time and energy. Yes, it can help you share your moments, but it can also steal moments from you. Today if you go for a dinner or any meal, you have many people who will just stare at their phones but not converse.. sometimes I feel that I spend too much time just going up and down the feed during which I could have read many useful books. I plan to read and then just take the phone to spend few minutes but ends up staying in for an expected duration of time. It is time to ensure that what we do, every second we spend is for the improvement or betterment of life. 🙂

  20. I prefer Twitter over Instagram as its all about “thoughts” VS. “things” but I totally understand as a beauty blogger why Instagram is important. I’m on both but like Twitter because it’s HARDER to gain a following on there, so I like the challenge! xo Renee

  21. I agree, a blog seems a little more contained and tends to attract people who want to ‘read’ your posts – they’re generally more intentional about visiting a blog – while social media platforms can be a bit like Piccadilly Circus at the best of times 😊

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