Have you ever wished to be in a different place but knowing very well that such a place didn’t exist or you couldn’t find such a place yet? Most people usually feel this when they aren’t at the right place in the sense, their workplace doesn’t necessarily provide a space where they feel included and sometimes even appreciated, they are easily ignored when they are with a group of friends and people in their lives in general don’t always seem to prioritise them.
I think we can all agree we felt like this at least once in our lives. It’s totally normal to reflect and reevaluate ourselves when things, people & situations don’t bring you joy, contentment or fulfilment. However, is there such a place where everything feels right and you don’t feel like an intruder or anomaly? That’s what in today’s post I wanted to discuss. Without further ado, let’s jump into the post!
Avez-vous déjà souhaité être ailleurs, tout en sachant pertinemment que cet endroit n’existait pas ou que vous ne pouviez pas encore le trouver ? La plupart des gens ressentent cela lorsqu’ils ne sont pas au bon endroit : leur lieu de travail ne leur offre pas forcément un espace où ils se sentent inclus et parfois même appréciés, ils sont facilement ignorés lorsqu’ils sont avec leurs amis et leur entourage ne semble pas toujours leur accorder la priorité.
Je pense que nous sommes tous d’accord pour dire que nous avons ressenti cela au moins une fois dans notre vie. Il est tout à fait normal de réfléchir et de se réévaluer lorsque les choses, les personnes et les situations ne nous apportent ni joie, ni satisfaction, ni épanouissement. Cependant, existe-t-il un endroit où tout semble aller bien et où l’on ne se sent pas comme un intrus ou une anomalie ? C’est ce dont je voulais parler dans l’article d’aujourd’hui. Sans plus attendre, passons à l’article !
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DOES IT HAVE TO DO WITH A PERSON?
We can all agree that home isn’t a place but a person or people. It doesn’t have anything to do with a city, country, continent or even a house but the people who you surround yourself with and most often than not, the people who you live with. In this case, it pretty much comes down to the same question as well — does this place revolve around a person? I would say both a yes and a no.
If the people around you hadn’t ignored or had valued you, you wouldn’t long for a place which seems so far away. So, yes. The place in question can be associated with a person or several people in this situation.
However, it’s also important to note that you can’t fill the hollowness you feel through external validation. Anything in life is temporary which means that people can be fleeting as well. If you put your entire attention on what others made you feel then you won’t be able to live your life fully.
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WILL YOU FIND IT BY CHANGING YOUR ENVIRONMENT?
The question that comes next is will you find that place if you were to change your environment? Not only does it change the people who you surround yourself with but it also changes the space you are in — both literally and figuratively — switching to a different job, moving to a different city or even country, hanging out with new people, dating a new person, etc.
But if we all know one thing from experience is the fact that nothing will truly change just because you decide to change things on the outside. Moving to a different city will give you the ability to have a fresh start and this might be the place where you finally find your solace and everything falls into place but things won’t magically change overnight either just because you switch to a different job or city.
At the end of the day, if you don’t change the way you feel internally then you will only be bringing that baggage wherever you go which wouldn’t really change anything. This solution will only be temporary and before you know it, you will start feeling out of place in this new city, job, group of friends, etc.
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DOES EVERY ANSWER START WITH OURSELVES?
Now comes the main question, is the place you were longing for all this time within yourself? To be honest, I do think it is. You might find friends who wouldn’t ignore when you are all together and listen when you speak, you might find a job where you are valued and recognised for your work, you might find people who will put you in their priority list and will never make you question whether or not you have a place in their lives, but this won’t solve anything unless you start valuing yourself purely just for yourself.
There will always be someone who might make you feel invisible, irrelevant and undeserving but if you allowed these thoughts to take roots into your mind then you will always be chasing for a place that doesn’t exist. I’m not saying you will never find such a place where acceptance, kindness and love are prevalent but it’s also important to feel all those emotions for ourselves without the validation or expectation of anyone.
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Thank you so much for reading! – xo N
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