I personally think that the idea of friendships or even the meaning behind it has changed tremendously during the past few decades. Especially now with social media and the posts that come up on my feed regarding this topic, it makes me view this term and the notion behind it in a completely new light.
What is to be a friend? Who is a good friend? Are you a good friend yourself? From what I’ve gathered, there are so many different opinions and the majority of people agree with some of them whereas the rest don’t and vice versa. However, in today’s post I wanted to share with you the three types of friends that you should value in your life and who are in my personal opinion, the true friends you should have in your life.
Je pense personnellement que l’idée d’amitié ou même la signification qui se cache derrière a énormément changé au cours des dernières décennies. En particulier, maintenant, avec les réseaux sociaux et les publications qui apparaissent sur mon fil d’actualité sur ce sujet, je vois ce terme et la notion qui le sous-tend sous un angle complètement différent.
Qu’est-ce qu’être un ami ? Qui est un bon ami ? Êtes-vous vous-même un bon ami ? D’après ce que j’ai compris, il existe tellement d’opinions différentes et la majorité des gens sont d’accord avec certaines d’entre elles tandis que les autres ne le sont pas et vice versa. Cependant, dans l’article d’aujourd’hui, je voulais partager avec vous les trois types d’amis que vous devriez valoriser dans votre vie et qui sont, à mon avis personnel, les vrais amis que vous devriez avoir dans votre vie.
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THE ONES WHO CARE ABOUT YOU
I think a lot of times people emphasise more on love in the sense that your friends should love you which I completely agree with because it’s an important aspect in terms of friendship. If your friends don’t love you or just like you then what role do they have in your life and is it worth calling them a friend?
With that said, a valuable friend isn’t only one who loves you for who you are but also one who cares about you. I know some people might debate that caring is a sign of love and both those words are intertwined with one another but I don’t think that is the case for every single person or relationship.
Someone might love you but if they don’t care bothering to know about how your day went or how you are doing then is it truly love? A friend isn’t only there during the good times but during the bad times as well. I completely understand that during certain instances not every friend is able to be present and has to prioritise their own life and well-being first but a friend who cares wouldn’t disappear when you are going through a tough time and reappear when you’ve overcome your hardship.
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THE ONES WHO SPARE TIME FOR YOU
I definitely think that finding time to be by yourself is getting much more difficult as the world progresses to what it is right now where you constantly have to work and always be on the move. However, finding time to be with your loved ones especially with your friends is much more difficult and that is the reason why you should appreciate if you have a friend who spares their time for you.
Not every friend is able to talk to you every single day and I do think that there should be a healthy balance between having your own time and spending quality time with your friends without restricting or suffocating one another. Everyone goes through their own hardships & struggles and most of the times, we don’t even realise it. If a friend gets in touch with you once in a while to ask about how you are doing, you might think that the both of you are drifting apart and there isn’t a stable connecting anymore but the truth of the matter is you might not even know if they are going through a struggle of their own.
I know for some people having a friend contact them once in a month will not be the same as a friend who is physically next to them but you also have to consider the circumstances that the both of you are in and obviously what you really want. The context matters in this case but I also think your preferences play a huge role as well.
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THE ONES WHO LISTEN TO YOU
Last but not least, if you have a friend that doesn’t only let you speak but also listen to your words then you should really cherish that person. Many people would listen to you speak but not many of them will absorb or remember your words and this might not be a significant thing because not every one of your friends has to remember every word you utter but when you share something that is not only meaningful but also very important to your heart then I truly believe this has the power to make or break your friendship.
Related: How To Slow Down When Life Gets Busy.
Thank you so much for reading! – xo N
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