3 Ways to Determine Your Values in Life.

What values do I want to have as a person? What principles do I have? What are my morals & beliefs as a person? These are the questions I’ve been asking myself ever since I was 20 – that’s why in today’s post I wanted to share with you 3 ways on how to determine your values in life.

Note that I wouldn’t necessarily say that having your values figured out quickly is inevitable or even essential and the next step of becoming a ‘better’ or ‘mature’ person but I think verbalising your morals, values, beliefs & principles, not to the world but to yourself will help you navigate this world in an easier manner.

Many people could be fully functioning adults who are intelligent, independent and kind but when you ask a question about themselves, they might not be able to answer it and that’s not because they don’t want to answer it but because they don’t know the answer to it. Life is way too short not to know about yourself, not only is it a disservice to yourself but it also restricts you from finding your full potential and being in an environment with people who bring out the best in you.

Quelles valeurs est-ce que je souhaite avoir en tant que personne ? Quels sont mes principes ? Quelles sont mes valeurs et mes croyances ? Ce sont les questions que je me pose depuis mes 20 ans. C’est pourquoi, dans l’article d’aujourd’hui, je voulais partager avec vous trois façons de déterminer vos valeurs.

Je ne dirais pas nécessairement qu’il est inévitable, ni même essentiel, de définir rapidement ses valeurs et que cela constitue la prochaine étape pour devenir une personne « mature » ​​ou « meilleure », mais je pense que verbaliser ses valeurs, ses croyances et ses principes, non pas au monde, mais à soi-même, vous aidera à naviguer dans ce monde plus facilement.

Nombreux sont ceux qui sont des adultes pleinement fonctionnels, intelligents, indépendants et bienveillants, mais lorsqu’on leur pose une question sur eux-mêmes, ils risquent de ne pas pouvoir y répondre, non pas par manque de volonté, mais parce qu’ils ne connaissent pas la réponse. La vie est bien trop courte pour ne pas se connaître soi-même. Non seulement c’est un mauvais service rendu à soi-même, mais cela vous empêche également de trouver votre plein potentiel et d’être dans un environnement avec des personnes qui font ressortir le meilleur de vous-même.

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TALKING TO PEOPLE WITH DIFFERENT BACKGROUNDS, CIRCUMSTANCES & MINDSETS THAN YOURS

I think you might have easily guessed this one but I think it’s extremely important to talk to different people who are at different stages in life and who have different backgrounds & perspectives than yours in order to determine your values. This is not necessarily a case of you sharing every single aspect or trait with that person, but more so you realising what makes you connect with that person, and what makes you disconnect with that person.

The truth is you cannot grow or even find every part of yourself if you are stuck in the same place in the same position. You have to get out of your comfort zone in order to broaden your horizons, paths and life. If you grow up with the same type of people who have similar backgrounds & perspectives as you then you might never know if you really share those values because they were instilled in you or because they resonate with you.

Related: Are Dreams Meant to be Unattainable?

 

CONSUMING ART

This might seem like an inefficient method but I think it’s very important to consume art in various mediums in order to figure out your values & beliefs. What I refer by art isn’t paintings or drawings but literature, films & stories in general. Art has always helped define people and see things in a new light. I’m not exaggerating when I say that a few of my morals came from the novels I read, sometimes all it takes is to read or watch something in order to connect with it.

Related: The Art Of Moving On.

 

FIGURING OUT YOUR LIKES & DISLIKES IN REGARDS TO YOURSELF AND OTHERS

I personally believe everyone should know their likes and dislikes not only in terms of others but including themselves as well. For instance, you might think you don’t like hanging out with a person because you genuinely don’t connect with their personality and don’t really feel comfortable with their presence but verbalising as to why you feel this way and which aspects of this person make you feel uncomfortable will help you understand what type of person you want to be.

Do you want to be like this person? Do you want others to feel the same way when they are with you? Do you wish the roles were reversed? Or, do you wish to be the opposite? Realising what you like and dislike as a person, both with yourself and others will help form fulfilling relationships and create a content life. I also think that knowing these things will create confidence within yourself because you know and trust yourself.

Related: How To Find Out What You Really Want In Life.

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Thank you so much for reading! – xo N

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