A topic that is timeless and quite popular regardless of the time & place is relationships, especially romantic ones. If you do a quick scroll on social media, you will at least see one post mentioning or talking about it. It will either be a person sharing relationship advice or showcasing their own relationship to their audience.
To be completely honest, this is a topic I’ve also written about a couple of times on my blog. With that said, these past few months I’ve been wondering and exploring the notion of ‘right person’ based on a few things I’ve seen on social media and on the things I’ve seen around me throughout my life, and I thought I would share my thoughts with you as it might allow you to ponder and reflect your own thoughts regarding this subject.
Un sujet intemporel et toujours aussi populaire, quel que soit le lieu ou l’époque, ce sont les relations, et plus particulièrement les relations amoureuses. Un simple coup d’œil sur les réseaux sociaux suffit pour tomber sur au moins une publication qui en parle, qu’il s’agit soit de conseils en matière de relations, soit de la présentation de sa propre relation à son public.
Pour être tout à fait honnête, j’ai moi-même abordé ce sujet à plusieurs reprises sur mon blog. Cela dit, ces derniers mois, je me suis interrogée sur la notion de « bonne personne pour vous », en m’appuyant sur certaines observations faites sur les réseaux sociaux et autour de moi. J’ai pensé partager mes réflexions avec vous, car elles pourraient vous amener à méditer sur ce sujet.
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CREATING THE DEFINITION
I want to start off by saying that there is no such thing as ‘the perfect partner’, and the label ‘right person’ does not have a universal definition which fits or applies to everyone and anyone, either. What might seem like the right person for one individual might be the complete opposite for another and vice versa.
However, you have to be self-aware of yourself and your circumstance in order to define what or who is the right person for you because this is something very personal to you. Most people would define the right person based on that person’s qualities, but I personally believe it should be defined based on their flaws.
What are the flaws you are willing to compromise with and how much are you willing to accommodate them on a daily basis?
Some people are comfortable dealing with their partner’s jealousy whereas others might find it triggering. Some people might accept their partner’s frugality whereas others might not be willing to put up with it. It’s important to note that the concept of flaws can be subjective as well. Something that you might view as a flaw might not be a flaw at all to another person.
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NORMALISING THE DECISIONS & CIRCUMSTANCES YOU CHOOSE
I personally think it’s time that people normalise the decisions and choices they made in regards to their relationship and life unapologetically without the fear of judgement from others but mainly from their own selves.
The truth is finding someone to love is easy, but finding the right person to love is difficult. Finding love in itself is quite rare, it’s not something that everyone experiences in this lifetime, which is the reason why it’s so idolised.
With that said, many people assign the label ‘right person’ to their partner even if they don’t check every single box and that is ok because at the end of the day, it’s their life and who are we to judge.
Let’s visualise it this way, for instance, someone might find a person who is 60% the right person for them and they might be happy with that. Another individual might find someone who is 30% the right person for them and they might settle their life with that person. As long as it’s not a dysfunctional or abusive relationship, there is pretty much no right or wrong in here. There is no guarantee that you will find someone who is 100% the right person for you so why should you restrict or stop yourself from living your life?
However, I do think it’s time that people normalise these circumstances instead of creating a false narrative that they’ve found the right person while in actual reality, they feel uncertain & unfulfilled behind closed doors. It goes without saying that I’m not saying that people should speak about their marriage/relationship to the world but I do think that not judging or not feeling defensive about the way other people choose to live their life—because they haven’t accepted the choices they made yet—goes a long way and should be the norm.
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DEFINING WHAT’S RIGHT FOR YOU
The more I think about the concept of finding the right person, the more I think it is a mindset. Sometimes, we overcomplicate things which are fairly simple and shouldn’t have been complicated in the first place.
If you are able to find someone who loves you then good. If you aren’t able to find someone who loves you, it’s ok. If you are able to find the right person for you then it’s great. If you aren’t able to find the right person, it’s ok too. If you are waiting for the right person then that’s amazing. If you aren’t waiting for the right person then it’s also amazing. You should do what feels right for you.
The less we judge and the more we respect each other’s choices, the more kindness & empathy we will have for one another which will enable us to build and form our own ‘right’ relationships and people.
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Thank you so much for reading! – xo N
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