Unlearning The Idea Of Comparing Yourself With Others.

I do think that negative emotions are a part of ourselves, like they are instinctual. You can of course control them and not let them overwhelm you which is pretty much how emotions such as jealousy, anger and hatred are subdued. With that said, I believe that the concept of comparison derives from those emotions.

The society and especially after the introduction of social media, both of those things have had and still have a major impact on ourselves. So many of our morals, values, beliefs and even habits have been instilled unconsciously in our brains through those mediums and that includes the art of comparison as well. In today’s post, I wanted to share with you some ways on how to unlearn that process. Without further ado, let’s jump into the post!

Je pense que les émotions négatives font partie de nous-mêmes, comme si elles étaient instinctives. Vous pouvez bien sûr les contrôler et ne pas les laisser vous submerger, ce qui est à peu près la façon dont les émotions telles que la jalousie, la colère et la haine sont maîtrisées. Cela dit, je crois que le concept de comparaison découle de ces émotions.

La société et surtout après l’introduction des médias sociaux, ces deux choses ont eu et ont toujours un impact majeur sur nous-mêmes. Tant de nos mœurs, valeurs, croyances et même habitudes ont été inculquées inconsciemment dans notre cerveau par ces médiums et cela inclut également l’art de la comparaison. Dans le post d’aujourd’hui, je voulais partager avec vous quelques façons de désapprendre ce processus. Sans plus tarder, passons au post !

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KNOWING THE NEGATIVE REPERCUSSIONS

As I mentioned above, comparing yourself to others can be something instinctual so don’t feel bad about yourself if you catch yourself doing or having those thoughts. However, not letting it control & dictate your life will be the healthiest thing you could do to yourself and in order for that to happen, you need to realise the negative repercussions it could have on yourself (if you didn’t stop it before it’s too late). Knowing how it would mess you up mentally will prevent you or at least try to prevent you from doing it regularly or continuously.

Related: How To Shut The Negative Voice In Your Head.

 

UNDERSTANDING THAT YOU ARE THE MAIN CHARACTER OF YOUR LIFE

There is literally no point in comparing yourself to others because at the end of the day, you don’t truly know what happens in their lives or behind closed doors. You might see the fruits of their labour but you might not really know the sacrifices and compromises they have had to make along the way to reach that specific dream.

You might see someone’s happy moment but what you might not realise is that happy moment was only a highlight of their life and not what they go through on a daily or regular basis. With that said, focus on yourself, on your timeline and on what makes you happy. You don’t need to pay attention to what’s happening in other people’s lives when you are the protagonist of your life.

Related: 3 Thoughts That Will Change Your Life.

 

USING IT AS A TOOL TO GROW

Last but not least, turn the art of comparison into something healthy. When others thrive, use it as an inspiration and not as a moment to feel inferior & jealous. As I said before, it might be natural to envy or be jealous but those emotions aren’t going to make you grow or help you move forward in life. They are only going to push you backward and not let you reach your full potential & capacity. If another person can do it, so can you! You might have something precious that others don’t have and vice versa, comparing yourself to others will only hide your blessings and strengths & qualities.

Related: Learning To Stand Up For Yourself.

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Thank you so much for reading! – xo N

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