I feel like 2023 has been the most tiring year to me. To be completely honest, I haven’t been able to have a heart-to-heart conversation with you or even get to interact with you as much as I used to and that’s not because my love for blogging has been fading but because of life. I never want my blog and the community I’ve built to feel like a chore and that’s the reason why I’ve been taking everything at a slow pace.
With that said, this year has also made me establish with certainty some of my thoughts & opinions regarding some aspects in my life or pretty much things in general. I wanted to share with you some of the life lessons I learnt that completely changed my perspective on so many things in life. As always, if you are interested – keep on reading!
J’ai l’impression que 2023 a été l’année la plus fatigante pour moi. Pour être tout à fait honnête, je n’ai pas pu avoir une conversation à cœur ouvert avec vous ni même interagir avec vous autant qu’avant et ce n’est pas parce que mon amour pour les blogs s’est estompé mais à cause de la vie. Je ne veux jamais que mon blog et la communauté que j’ai bâtie soient une corvée et c’est la raison pour laquelle je suis en train de prendre tout à un rythme lent.
Cela dit, cette année m’a également permis d’établir avec certitude certaines de mes pensées et opinions concernant certains aspects de ma vie ou à peu près des choses en général. Je voulais partager avec vous certaines des leçons de vie que j’ai apprises et qui ont complètement changé ma vision de tant de choses dans la vie. Comme toujours, si vous êtes intéressé, continuez à lire !
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EDUCATION
This is something I mentioned once on my blog but I truly believe that education doesn’t have an age. As long as your circumstance allows you and you have the financial ability to go back to school then you should never let the society, your environment or anyone dictate you on what you should do (and shouldn’t). There are a lot of mature students in universities, I know many people who went back to college in their fifties – some of my peers at uni were literally the same age as my parents.
If you feel embarrassed or ashamed to go back to school then remember that nobody really cares about your age, if not many people usually respect the fact that you came back to school to pursue something you are passionate about. University is not high school, people mind their own business and most of the times they are too busy with their own lives to look at others. With that said, it’s completely ok if you don’t pursue a traditional path as well.
There is too much emphasis that you need to go to university in order to obtain a good job or a respectable career which isn’t technically wrong but there are also so many paths available that will allow you the same opportunities and it’s something that’s not often talked about for instance an apprenticeship, specialised schools for specific courses, etc. In addition, you don’t need to go to university in order to have a successful career or earn money. At the end of the day, it’s all about your skills & knowledge, and your willingness to improve and better yourself in the career path or field you chose.
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CAREER
I think now more than ever there is a pressure to be established in your career at an early point in your life which might have worked with some people but I do think it’s unrealistic and unpractical in general. Not everyone can say with certainty what they want to do or pursue for the rest of their lives and you shouldn’t restrict yourself to stay in a path just because you picked it at the beginning of your career journey. It’s way more common now to find people who have had 5 or 6 different careers in their lives. Many people end up having a successful career only in their fifties.
Furthermore, it’s completely ok to change your mind about your career or not be interested in having a career at all. At the end of the day, what you need is money in order to survive and live in this world. If your job allows you to live comfortably and have a roof over your head & food on the table then you shouldn’t be too hard on yourself. If your circumstance doesn’t allow you to focus or have a career at all but you are content with your life then you shouldn’t let the world have a say in your life. Having a career is important but it shouldn’t come at the cost of your own happiness and peace.
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LOVE/RELATIONSHIPS
Depending on your environment, situation or even culture, there might be a pressure to get into a relationship or even get married by a certain age in your life. To be honest, if you are still single by a certain age then there will be people trying to play matchmakers with you or worse pressurising you to get into a relationship just because ‘they think’ you are unhappy and need someone in your life which is how most people end up with unfulfilled relationships or marriages.
When it comes to love, you are as important as as the person you are with. Your partner isn’t going to fill up any missing piece of yourself, they are only going to create a piece of themselves into your life. Your partner can be the source of your happiness but at the end of the day, your happiness is in your own hands. In terms of love, what’s important is the person you are with. It’s better to marry the right person late than marry the wrong person. The love you find at a later point in your life is as worthy & special as the love another person found early on in theirs.
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LIFE
Last but not least, there isn’t a competition when it comes to life. Many people end up living their lives by looking at others that they don’t end up finding out what they truly want, like or need for themselves. Everyone has a different circumstance thus they are at their own pace, there is literally no point comparing or competing yourself with someone who doesn’t have the same personality, situation, goals, dreams or wants or needs as you.
No one is going faster than you and you aren’t going slower than anybody, everyone is at their own pace, doing things and achieving their personal goals & plans at their own pace whether it be their education, career, relationship, friendships, owning materialistic things, etc. A degree you get in your forties is just as special a degree you get in your twenties. A house you buy in your fifties is just as worthy as a house you buy in your thirties. At the end, what truly matters is how content you are in your life and how fulfilling your path & relationships are.
Related: How To Slow Down When Life Gets Busy.
Wishing you a Merry Christmas! – xo N
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Very thoughtful. It was a challengin year for myself too. Let’s hope that 2024 can be way better and full of success!
Thank you so much! Let’s hope so too 🤞🏼
Everyone needs to find their own path at a pace that they are comfortable with.
You are absolutely right! Thank you so much for reading 😊
100% everyone goes at their own pace.
I appreciate your post. These can be difficult realizations for some, myself included. Our society creates false goals based on the functioning of a commercial system. Religion, politics, medicine, education all tend to fall into the same line. Insurance companies. Injury lawyers, I’d never seen so many billboards for them along the highway on a recent trip to the South. Justice equates to payment, not balance or harmony. Most of us are on the wrong track because of how difficult it is to untangle from the complex set of rules and guidelines that we are expected to follow. It’s a massive board game. And it can be fun. But if you lose, you might just fall away into the cracks. The format doesn’t cover failure so well.
As far as love goes, it’s a roll of the dice. Years ago, someone told me to “be picky.” And I understood why, until I started counting the years. I have to say, it probably works to wait. You probably don’t want to suffer through a difficult relationship, even as an alternative to being perpetually single. I’ve generally gotten strong feelings about that. I’m discovering that being in a healthy relationship takes practice, for me anyway. It turns all those bad dates and heartbreaks into focus, gives them meaning. “Of course she’s going to pass on me. I wasn’t being myself.” And there are foggy moments when you can’t see what the other person is standing on. The guessing game is not a good way to start out.
Since I started releasing my anxieties, my work and other aspects of my life are completely improving, maybe for the first time in my life. I can’t be specific about how I managed to do this, after attempting to, all these years. But it has to do with the understanding that we are programmed from the third trimester of being in the womb until age seven. Most of us find it an ambitious task pointing fingers, some find it pretty straightforward. It is quite simple to reprogram, according to Bruce Lipton. For me, it is the way. It might not be for everyone. That’s why there are so many choices.
Thank you for the advice. I’m happy when I can find other explorers on this road.
Oh wow, I knew our childhood or even our mother’s pregnancy had an impact on us but I didn’t realise how far it would or could go. It’s definitely interesting but it also makes so much sense in the grand scheme of things because our environment plays a huge part in terms of our personality, actions, behaviour and words. Your comment made me want to explore that aspect and the idea of reprogramming our mind sounds intriguing but also full of hope.
Thank you so much for reading and for giving me such an insightful thought.
Hope! Yes! Yes! I buried myself in negative self talk for a lot of my life. It’s refreshing being on my own team now!
2023 was one of the most tiring years for me, too. Started the year with burnout, then developed hypothyroidism. I’m still very tired all the time. This morning I fell back asleep on the sofa with the light switched on right above me. I’m usually super sensitive to light and would not be able to sleep that way but that’s pretty much how it’s been all year. Me falling asleep in the middle of the day, not being able to get up in the morning. Not being able to study (I went back to uni last year aged 35), not being able to garden, not being able to blog… Let’s just get 2023 over with, shall we?
I’m so sorry to hear that, sounds like 2023 was a very tough year but I am also very proud of you for fighting back in your own way. The fact that you went back to uni is an accomplishment of its own and I hope & wish 2024 is a lot kinder to you. I can’t wait for 2023 to be over! Thank you so much for reading ❤️