As I’m entering my thirties soon, I have realised that my morals, values & beliefs haven’t really changed tremendously from my early or mid-twenties – they very much remain the same. However, there are a few things that I’ve learned along the way these past few years that I’ve wanted to share.
Once again, I would like to reiterate that although I stand by these core values, you know what’s best for you & your life so take anything you read online with a grain of salt. With that said, without further ado – let’s jump into the post!
Alors que j’approche de la trentaine, je me suis rends compte que ma morale, mes valeurs et mes croyances n’ont pas vraiment changé depuis le début ou le milieu de ma vingtaine – elles sont restées pratiquement les mêmes. Cependant, j’ai appris quelques choses au cours de ces dernières années et je voulais les partager avec vous.
Une fois de plus, je tiens à réitérer que même si je maintiens ces valeurs fondamentales, vous savez ce qui est le mieux pour vous et votre vie, alors prenez tout ce que vous lisez en ligne avec un grain de sel. Cela dit, sans plus attendre, passons à l’article !
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1 | TAKE YOUR RESPONSIBILITIES SERIOUSLY, NOT YOUR LIFE
This is a statement that I read a few years ago and at that time, I couldn’t really understand or connect with it and what it truly meant. In my mind, your responsibilities were intertwined with your life so I didn’t really understand the concept of separating your responsibilities from your life when they are very much interwoven with one another. However, I do now understand the purpose of this statement.
The responsibilities and commitments you have in your life are extremely important, and they do require your time, attention & effort but they are not your life – only a fraction of it. When things start to get hectic or overwhelming, it’s completely okay to take a step back. You don’t need to feel bad or guilty for enjoying life or for the things that make you happy. You are meant to live, not survive.
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2 | DO NOT BURN YOURSELF TO KEEP OTHERS WARM
I’m pretty sure this is something that everyone has heard at least once in their lifetime and I cannot stress how important that is which is not burning yourself to keep others warm. I like to believe that the majority of us are empathetic & kind towards others to the point some of us turn into people pleasers. But draining yourself to keep another person happy and at peace won’t make you happy nor at peace.
The majority of the time this happens, the possibility of the other party not appreciating or recognising your work & effort in order to make them happy is very high. There is also a big chance that they are taking advantage of you and the minute you start to stand up for yourself, they will try to manipulate you into thinking that you are the one who is in the wrong and not them. Life is way too short to live amongst people who don’t appreciate, respect and care about you.
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3 | IF YOU MADE A CHOICE, DO IT UNAPOLOGETICALLY WITHOUT ANY SECONDS THOUGHTS OR REGRETS
I would probably say this one applies more to the people who over-worry, overthink and are indecisive but if you have made a choice or decision then stand by it unapologetically without any second thoughts or regrets.
Do not go back & forth about your decision and do not become restless due to the uncertainty you feel because at the end of the day, you have made up your mind and you cannot go wonder about the ‘what ifs’ or the hypothetical alternate choice.
This will only create unnecessary stress and anxiety which are the worst things you could do to yourself. For example, if you have made a selfish decision then you need to stand by that choice. It’s completely okay to feel guilt, resentment or disappointment whether it be towards the other party or yourself but you cannot suddenly turn that decision into a selfless one and try to switch the decision you made.
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4 | PATIENCE ISN’T ABOUT TIME BUT MINDSET
A lot of times, patience is equated to time in the sense you could define how patient someone is based on the time they wait but I would like to think that patience isn’t really about time but about the mindset someone has. Time doesn’t have an end nor does it have an element of certainty, you could be patient for weeks, months or years but it doesn’t mean that your patience will be rewarded at the end.
However, with a mindset that allows you to acknowledge that patience might not always be fruitful or rewarding but at the same time has the potential to grant you something great and incredible will help you navigate through hardships and obstacles life throws at you.
Related: 3 Keys To Patience.
5 | ONLY SMALL JOYS CAN BRING YOU PEACE & FULFILMENT
This is something I’ve already mentioned on my blog but I always disliked the phrase “money can’t buy happiness” because it can. It can give you stability and comfort as well as help to further your education, career and relationships but one thing money can’t give you is fulfilment.
Only small joys in life can give you fulfilment and thus peace that’s the reason why it’s important to recognise & acknowledge those joys regardless of how insignificant or childish they may seem. They might be the toughest things to experience when you are going through a difficult time but if you allow yourself to experience them for a few minutes, you will be able to push through your hard times a bit easier.
Related: 3 Things that Have Helped to Keep My Mind at Peace.
Thank you so much for reading! – xo N
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New Lune 
These are really good advices. Especially no. 2. Sometimes we get in the habit of doing a lot to please others that we essentially ‘burn out’.
I also appreciate that patience is all about the mindset. Time is realtive to each person so how we experience time is all in our mind. Thanks for these 🙌🏾🙌🏾