Identifying if You Are The Problem.

Have you ever wondered if you are the problem in a particular situation or relationship? It’s completely normal to experience ups & downs in life and the same goes for relationships whether it be familial, platonic or romantic.

Nothing is static and everything fluctuates but if you are constantly feeling like you are experiencing setbacks upon setbacks, and there is always an issue around the corner then is it because you are surrounded around problems or is it because you are the problem?

In today’s post, I wanted to explore this idea and share ways on how to identify if you are the problem in question or if it’s simply your environment. As always, if you’re interested – keep on reading!

Vous êtes-vous déjà demandé si vous étiez à l’origine du problème dans une situation ou une relation particulière ? Il est tout à fait normal de connaître des hauts et des bas dans la vie, et c’est également vrai pour les relations, qu’elles soient familiales, amicales ou amoureuses.

Rien n’est figé, tout fluctue. Mais si vous avez constamment l’impression d’enchaîner les échecs et qu’un problème se profile toujours à l’horizon, est-ce parce que vous êtes entouré de problèmes ou parce que vous en êtes la cause ?

Dans cet article, je souhaite explorer cette idée et partager des pistes pour déterminer si vous êtes le problème en question ou s’il s’agit simplement de votre environnement. Comme toujours, si cela vous intéresse, poursuivez votre lecture !

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A PATTERN OR AN ENVIRONNEMENT?

The easiest way to figure out if you are truly the problem in a situation is by identifying if all the issues that you experience is a result of a pattern or a result of the environment you are in. If you are experience similar situations regardless of the people you surround yourself with then it’s a pattern.

However, if you are experiencing bad things again and again because you are surrounded with the same people you’ve always been with then it’s a matter of environment. I do think it’s important to mention that both those aspects can easily intertwine with one another if you have experienced traumatic events.

For example, a vulnerable person might have left a dysfunctional environment but a person with bad intentions can easily perceive and sense that vulnerability and might want to take advantage which doesn’t mean that the vulnerable person is the problem, it just means that you have to take into consideration your past experiences, decisions, actions and words in order to identify the situation you are in.

Related: The Kind of People You Want to Surround Yourself With.

 

DISCERNING THE EMOTIONS YOU FEEL

What do you feel when you are put in a difficult situation? Do you feel discomfort, regret or guilt or do you feel sadness, anxiety and numbness? Let’s get even more specific by asking if you feel discomfort because you are going through an issue or do you feel discomfort because things are way too calm?

I personally think discerning the emotions you feel will give you the answer you’re looking for because those emotions exist within you and you don’t have to pretend or put on a facade for anyone else therefore you don’t need to feel shame, embarrassment or fear—you just have to be honest with yourself.

Related: 3 Ways to Release Your Negative Emotions.

 

YOU ALREADY HAVE THE ANSWER IF YOU ARE QUESTIONING

This is the most obvious way to identify the situation you are in and it’s probably something you might have already guessed but being self-aware and questioning yourself if you are the problem already tells the answer you need to know.

People who are truly the problem won’t question or even think about this question, and even if they do it will probably be to reassure themselves in order to justify and explain their own reasoning & action.

But it doesn’t mean that they won’t change or improve to become a better person, you just have to decide whether you choose to stay with them and go through a path where you might not feel peace or distance yourself from them and allow yourself to feel contentment.

At the end of the day, actions speak louder than words and if someone is trying to better themselves and grow as a person then it’s something you can easily notice and see without sharing any words with one another. People have the capability to change which includes you too, but they can change for the better or for the worse—you are the one who decides which path to take on.

Related: How to Not Self-Sabotage Yourself.

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Thank you so much for reading! – xo N

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