Some would say that it’s human nature to make mistakes and to a certain extent I agree with that. Obviously, you can’t apply this statement to every situation, especially when a mistake is done intentionally and without any regards to others with no guilt and remorse.
In today’s post, I wanted to share with you 3 mistakes I learned from. Some people might not consider them to be mistakes in the first place and vice versa but I do think it’s important to acknowledge and recognise when you were/are at fault and try to learn from them instead of moving past them. As always, if you’re interested – keep on reading!
Certains diront que commettre des erreurs fait partie de la nature humaine, et je suis, dans une certaine mesure, d’accord avec cela. Évidemment, cette affirmation ne s’applique pas à toutes les situations, surtout lorsqu’une erreur est commise intentionnellement, sans aucun égard pour autrui et sans le moindre sentiment de culpabilité ou de remords.
Dans l’article d’aujourd’hui, je tenais à partager avec vous trois erreurs qui m’ont servi de leçon. Certains ne les considéreraient peut-être pas comme des erreurs à proprement parler — et inversement —, mais j’estime qu’il est important de reconnaître ses torts (passés ou présents) et de chercher à en tirer des enseignements plutôt que de simplement passer à autre chose. Comme toujours, si le sujet vous intéresse, je vous invite à poursuivre votre lecture !
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NOT FOLLOWING MY GUT
I’m sure this is a mistake many of us are guilty of and that is, not following your gut instinct. You could view this sentence in so many different ways and directions, and I think all of them apply in this case. I’m a firm believer that there is a big difference between getting out of your comfort zone and doing something that creates discomfort within yourself—your fight-or-flight response exists for a reason.
With that said, your instinct is always there to remind you when something feels off. For instance, not speaking out for another party, not speaking out for yourself, not distancing yourself from a person, not cutting out a group of people from your life quickly, not following a specific path, following a certain path out of peer pressure, interacting with a person, eating something, drinking something etc.
These are all various examples of not following your gut but they all share the same end result. Some of them can seem inoffensive and almost mundane and redundant in a way, but they might have serious repercussions and that is why you are the only one who knows best about yourself. There are instances where I haven’t followed my gut instinct because I didn’t want to confront another person or what was in front of me, but the problem doesn’t run away or stop existing, it only expands and takes a shape of its own.
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PUTTING TOO MUCH EMPHASIS ON OTHER PEOPLE’S THOUGHTS & OPINIONS
There is nothing wrong with listening, empathising and prioritising other people’s thoughts and opinions, I would say it’s a humane trait of ours. However, you should never put those thoughts and opinions on a pedestal to the point you negate, disregard and discredit your own thoughts, feelings and opinions, and anything that makes you ‘you’.
There will always be someone who is better than you whether it be in terms of physical appearance, personality, education, career, wealth, etc. which is already something we are all aware of, but there will also be someone who will put you down (regardless of their own circumstances). You should never create your worth based on another person’s subjective perception, the same way you should never let their thoughts dictate your joy and peace.
If there is something I’ve learned the past year or so, is the fact that you should never take anything anybody says too seriously and personal whether it’s a critic or praise. Many people have their own issues and situations, and many of them only know how to deal with them by being resentful, spiteful and condescending towards others either directly or indirectly. If you put too much emphasis on every person’s subjective thought they had in regards to you & your life then you will never be able to enjoy life freely.
Related: 3 Thoughts That Will Change Your Life.
ALLOCATING THE PRIMARY ROLE IN MY LIFE TO OTHERS
I believe this is something I’ve already mentioned on my blog but you should never give the role of the main character in your life to another person, even if it’s a loved one. I know this statement sounds very cliché and cringey but the truth is many people take a step back from their own life and give that role to another person. They often feel like a supporting character in their own life—rather than the main character—and their life revolves around others instead of themselves.
Obviously, I don’t need to say how detrimental it is to have this mindset but subconsciously, many people do/did this including myself. It took me years to realise that I wasn’t just living life to the fullest, but I had given the primary role of my life to other parties as well, and it was only when I recognised that those people didn’t give up their roles regardless of their circumstances that I asked myself what had been the point of me doing it in the first place.
You might be a supporting character in another person’s life but you are the main character in your own.
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Thank you so much for reading! – xo N
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