I think one of the hardest things to do in life is to move on from a situation or person that doesn’t bring you happiness nor peace but quite the opposite.
Sometimes, those circumstances aren’t as easy & straightforward as they may seem and you might not necessarily feel happy or at peace even after leaving those environments or people. In today’s post, I wanted to share with you some ways on how to truly move on. As always, if you are interested – keep on reading!
Je pense que l’une des choses les plus difficiles à faire dans la vie est de passer d’une situation ou d’une personne qui ne vous apporte ni bonheur ni paix, mais bien au contraire.
Parfois, ces circonstances ne sont pas aussi simples et directes qu’elles le paraissent et vous ne vous sentirez peut-être pas nécessairement heureux ou en paix même après avoir quitté ces environnements ou ces personnes. Dans le post d’aujourd’hui, je voulais partager avec vous quelques façons de vraiment passer à autre chose. Comme toujours, si vous êtes intéressé, continuez à lire !
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FINDING YOUR SELF-WORTH
The first step to moving on is to find and recognise your self-worth. If you don’t truly understand why you left that particular situation in the first place then you will probably never acknowledge or realise why it was beneficial & healthy for you to leave. Putting yourself first isn’t selfish especially if the person or situation you were/are in is quite toxic – remember that you can’t pour water from an empty cup.
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LEARNING TO HEAL
The journey to healing isn’t linear, it’s a journey full of ups & downs. There will be days you will feel completely fine and there will be days where you will feel the polar opposite. Bad memories will resurface as well as negative emotions such as anger, hatred, sadness but mainly frustration that you didn’t recognise the situation you were in at first and didn’t leave sooner.
All those emotions are valid and you shouldn’t repress them, those are pretty much a part of your healing journey because eventually by the end, you will be able to feel acceptance then peace which is what matters the most.
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THE MOTTO OF FORGET & FORGIVE
A lot of people will say that you have to forget & forgive in order to move on, this is something that’s quite often mentioned everywhere whether it’s in movies, tv shows, books, etc. To be bluntly honest with you, I don’t find that particular motto to be healthy but that is only a personal opinion of mine.
I understand very well the reason why that quote is said the way it is said and why so many people apply it but forgetting the experiences especially the traumatic ones you experienced can be quite harmful and might give the opportunity for others to put you in the same situation as before again or worse for you to put yourself in that same headspace. If there is a person you have to forgive in that situation, it’s firstly yourself before anyone else and forgetting that those experiences exist isn’t a bad thing but never forget the life lessons learned through those experiences in question.
Related: How To Heal After A Heartbreak.
Thank you so much for reading! – xo N
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New Lune 
I think it’s possible to forgive without forgetting. Like you said, you could end up in the same dangerous situation again if you forget. Good post!
Thank you so much love! ❤️
I agree 100 percent with you, especially the last one.
Seems we all become forgetful with time and tend to forget the bad things people have done to us, especially if we’re positive people. But if you’ve moved on from people, whether it’s friendship or romance, there was a strong reason. I look back in my old diaries and am astonished from how much garbage I’ve put up with from ex boyfriends and ex friends.
I’ve forgiven way too much and while it may save me a front row seat in heaven, it’s not doing me good here on earth to be such a pushover.
Nowadays, I’m blessed to say my husband is my best friend; most others are kept at an arm’s length.
Forgiveness isn’t a bad thing at all, it helps us move forward and let go of rage, hatred & anger but forgiving the wrong people will do you the complete opposite and I think that’s why I disagree with the notion that you have to forget & forgive someone in order to have peace & move on in your life. You could very much forgive someone by not forgetting what they have done and not letting them into your life again. I’m sorry that you had bad experiences with your ex boyfriends and ex friends but I’m glad to hear that your husband is your best friend which is what matters at the end. Thank you so much for reading ❤️
Forgiveness is tough weather its for the person who hurt us or for yourself. But it’s also true that to move on, forgiveness is the one of the best ways. Thoughtful post. 👌
Thank you so much 😊
I really appreciate you posting this I am currently going through this and needed to read this. Thank you.
Same
I’m glad to hear that, thank you so much for reading 😊
Really enjoyed this post. Thank you
Thank you so much 😊