Resolutions For 2020

{AD} I have never been the type of person to make New Year’s resolutions because I don’t like the idea of putting too much pressure on myself in case I don’t get to accomplish them. But last year, I decided to make a couple of them and surprisingly I was able to achieve them.

This year’s resolutions are pretty much very similar to last year’s ones but more personal. I know many of my readers are single and at a weird stage in their life when everyone are in a relationship and their loved ones pressuring them to date someone otherwise they wouldn’t be able to find the “one”.

This definitely can have an impact on yourself and the way you view yourself and in today’s post, I wanted to share my resolutions when it comes to the next chapter of my life and hopefully they will help you too.

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TRUST YOUR INTUITION

It doesn’t matter if the entire world is telling you to do something, you know what’s best for yourself and the same goes for the person you are going to date or spend the rest of your life with (hopefully). If you feel uncomfortable or don’t feel like spending time with a person, be honest with yourself and follow your instinct. It will never disappoint you.

There is always a valid reason behind every choice you make even if sometimes you can’t verbalise your thoughts and it’s only a feeling. You don’t have to explain yourself to anyone, just trust your heart. If your intuition is telling you to get away from a situation or someone, please remove yourself from that situation/person.

Even if others pressure you to date or be with someone by telling you excuses, it’s your life and at the end of the day – they are not going to be the ones living it. This applies to all the relationships, platonic or romantic – even for decisions, choices and actions as well. If you don’t feel good about something, there is always a very good reason for it and you don’t have to justify yourself.

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TRUST THE TIMING OF YOUR LIFE

Another thing people or should I say the society puts pressure is on the goals you should achieve before a certain age. For example, you should graduate before you are 21 and that you should have a successful career at the age of 25, the list goes on. The same applies even for relationships and marriage. If you are not in a serious relationship or married before you approach your late twenties that you are doomed.

Obviously this varies depending on the culture, community or family you have but it’s just so sad to think that way. Some people might get married in their 20s and then get divorced a couple of years later whereas others might get married in their 40s and have a happy marriage for the rest of their life. You shouldn’t put a timeline on people’s age and goals. Sometimes it’s better being single and happy than be in a unhappy relationship.

There are so many ways to find someone whether it’s through common friends or dating websites, there is always an option available. There are even websites for senior dating such as silver-dating.com so I don’t think your age will ever limit your from finding someone. Live your life to the fullest and you will definitely find the right person when you least expect it. This does not only apply for your romantic relationship but for anything in life, whether it’s your career, goals or dreams. Just trust the timing of your life!

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TAKE CARE OF YOUR MIND & BODY

One of the reasons why I didn’t choose to date when I was at school/uni was because I wanted to love myself first. As cheesy and cliche as it is, loving myself was on the top of my priority list. More than loving, respecting myself was very much important to me. If I wasn’t kind to myself then how will another person be? Not only during this time I learnt to be more mindful about my thoughts towards myself but I learnt to embrace and accept my flaws and insecurities as well.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying you wouldn’t be able to love someone if you didn’t love yourself because that’s entirely false. What I’m saying is quite the opposite, in order for you to have a healthy relationship – you need to accept who you are as a person. This goes both ways whether you are a man or a woman. Some relationships can bring the worst in us. It doesn’t mean that the other person was toxic, sometimes we can be the source of that toxicity.

This brings me to the actual resolution which is to take care of your mind & body. This might not be entirely different to loving yourself but it definitely plays a huge part when it comes to being happy and confident. Making sure that your physical and mental health are in a good place will guarantee for a much happier life. When you feel your best, it will attract the right people in your life.

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DON’T COMPARE

I think it’s so easy to compare yourself with other people, even if you are happily single especially with social media and everything. It may seem like everyone is living their best life and have found their partner but you never know what’s going on behind closed doors. You might think everyone found their perfect match but sometimes it’s only an illusion.

There are so many things that go behind a relationship and it’s not always sunshine and rainbows. You need to make a lot of sacrifices, compromises and choices in order to make the relationship work. Obviously there are amazing moment but there are also down moments.

You never know, they might think your single life is amazing and feel miserable in their relationship so there is no need to compare yourself with another person, let alone with a couple. Comparing will bring unnecessary toxicity and negativity when you could be enjoying your life.

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THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR READING!

xo N

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