I think we all have expectations when it comes to our love life. Whether it’s the way we end up finding that ‘special’ someone or simply the way we envision our future with that person – we all have some sorts of unsaid expectations. Obviously, there is nothing wrong with it unless we get too obsessed into those fantasies.
In today’s post, I wanted to share with you the expectations I mostly come across about finding love or dating and what actually happens in real life. Grab a cup of coffee, tea or hot chocolate and let’s jump into the post!
Je pense que nous avons tous des attentes en ce qui concerne notre vie amoureuse. Qu’il s’agisse de la façon dont nous finissons par trouver cette personne «spéciale» ou simplement de la manière dont nous envisageons notre avenir avec cette personne, nous avons tous une sorte d’attentes non dites. De toute évidence, il n’ya rien de mal à cela, sauf si nous sommes trop obsédés par ces fantasmes.
Dans le post d’aujourd’hui, je voulais partager avec vous les attentes que je ressens principalement concernant la recherche d’amour ou de rencontres et ce qui se passe réellement dans la vie réelle. Prenez une tasse de café, thé ou chocolat chaud et lisons le billet!
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FINDING LOVE WHEN YOU ARE IN SCHOOL/UNI
Most people expect to date or find their partner while they are still in school/uni. Even writing this sentence makes me cringe so badly because there is no way you could find the person you are going to spend the rest of your life with when you are still studying and growing as a person.
Don’t get me wrong, there are some who ended up marrying their high school sweetheart or got into a serious relationship with someone who was just a peer/classmate but in reality, it doesn’t happen to everyone. From my perspective, most boys in high school or uni tend to be immature and not really value relationships which I’m not saying it’s right but it’s actually the only time when you can be carefree so why would you add too much stress on your plate?
The ones who end up having a serious relationship or got married after they started dating in school probably went through lots of ups and downs. In my opinion, it’s not the ideal time to start a relationship nor to date but you know what’s best for you. So many of my friends are not with the person who they dated while they were in high school or uni. If you ask them if they regretted dating those guys, they would absolutely say they do regret it to a certain extent.
Trust me when I say, people don’t find their future spouse when they are still in school. Most people end up finding them through their mutual friends or in random instances. Definitely not in their teens and least likely in their high school. Enjoy your time while you are still studying and if you are meant to be with someone, that person will always find a way no matter the circumstance.
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MEETING SOMEONE THE OLD-FASHIONED WAY
I’m pretty sure I’m not the only one who assumes that I’ll meet someone while I’m running errands, drinking my hot chocolate at a coffee shop or when I’m simply walking in the street. I definitely think the reasons why I have these thoughts is because of watching too many unrealistic movies hahah!
As much as I would love to bump into someone when I least expect it, in real life it doesn’t happen that way. Your loved ones will either be playing matchmakers and set you up on a date or through online dating. It has become the norm nowadays and it’s much easier to find someone who lives in the same county/town as you with websites like Cambridgeshire Dating Site than bumping into someone randomly in the street.
I’m not saying one is better than the other or vice versa, it’s just the ways things are nowadays. Meeting or dating someone from the help of your loved ones or by yourself is much more realistic than waiting for someone to cross your path. I’m a firm believer that if you are meant to be with someone, you’ll be with that person and the same goes for the opposite. If you are not meant to be with someone then it doesn’t matter how hard you try to find ways to be with that person – it won’t work. Whether that’s a job, relationship, opportunity – each will happen in their own time. Don’t force yourself into doing something that you might regret in the future. Remember when you are desperate, you tend to make bad decisions.
FINDING THE PERSON RIGHT AWAY
A lot of people expect to find & date the right person the first time round which is once again not a bad expectation to have and I find it quite optimistic but sadly, it rarely happens in real life. The first person you date might end up being the person you are going to spend the rest of your life with but at the same time, he might not be and that’s completely okay as well.
There is no such things as meeting the ideal person right away. You don’t need to put too much pressure on yourself nor the other person. I’m not a believer of love at first sight but I do believe in love at first instinct. When you meet the right person, you’ll know in your gut that the person will play a huge role in your life. If you don’t meet that person right away, just enjoy your life in the meantime.
Society puts way too much pressure on young people to find someone and get married before a certain age. It doesn’t matter at what age you get married nor what you are doing at that moment or even how long you’ve known each other – what matters is finding someone that loves you unconditionally.
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I’ve been really enjoying writing relationship-related blog posts although I’m single hahah! I like sharing my thoughts around this subject since I have never really cared about relationships that much when growing up and now that I’m in my twenties, I find the whole concept of dating and finding love very interesting. I’m pretty sure I have already mentioned it but all my friends are either married, engaged or in a serious relationship. I don’t have a friend who is single I can talk to or share my thoughts with so it’s nice knowing that there are others in the same boat as I. We can all share our thoughts, opinions and experiences freely!
J’ai beaucoup aimé écrire des articles de blog sur les relations, même si je suis célibataire hahah! J’aime partager mes réflexions sur ce sujet car je ne me suis jamais vraiment soucié des relations quand je grandissais et maintenant que j’ai vingt ans, je trouve le concept de rencontres et de recherche d’amour très intéressant. Je suis sûr que j’en ai déjà parlé, mais tous mes amis sont mariés, fiancés ou dans une relation sérieuse. Je n’ai pas d’ami célibataire avec qui je puisse parler ou partager mes pensées, alors c’est bien de savoir qu’il y en a d’autres dans le même cas que moi. Nous pouvons tous partager nos pensées, nos opinions et nos expériences!
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