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Growing A Thick Skin As A Blogger.

I always emphasise on the benefits and positive things that blogging can bring you in your life whether it’s the potential opportunities you might receive, the community you build or even the fact that you have a platform to talk about everything or anything you want. When you talk about the negativity in the blogging community, the first thing that comes to your mind is hate comments.

But there is more than that. There are so many things that go beyond those negative & rude comments in the blogging community and that’s what I wanted to share with you in today’s post. I’ve been blogging for 6 years and if there is one piece of advice I would tell to new or established bloggers is to have thick skin. Not only to protect yourself but for your own sanity. Without further ado, let’s jump into the post!

Je souligne toujours les avantages et les choses positives que les blogs peuvent vous apporter dans votre vie, qu’il s’agisse des opportunités potentielles que vous pourriez recevoir, de la communauté que vous créez ou même du fait que vous avez une plateforme pour parler de tout ce que vous voulez. Lorsque vous parlez de la négativité dans la communauté des blogueurs, la première chose qui vous vient à l’esprit est les commentaires haineux.

Mais il y a plus que ça. Il y a tellement de choses qui vont au-delà de ces commentaires négatifs et impolis dans la communauté des blogueurs et c’est ce que je voulais partager avec vous dans l’article d’aujourd’hui. Je blogue depuis 6 ans et s’il y a un conseil que je dirais aux blogueurs nouveaux ou qui bloguent depuis longtemps, c’est d’avoir la peau épaisse. Non seulement pour vous protéger, mais pour votre propre santé mentale. Sans plus tarder, passons au post!

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BLOGGERS TAKING ADVANTAGE OF YOU

This is something that most bloggers don’t talk about but you need to grow a thick skin if you don’t want other bloggers to take advantage of you. Yup, as crazy as it sounds bloggers taking advantage of other bloggers is more common than you would think. There are so many cases and I don’t want to give some people ideas so I’m going to refrain doing that but I’m pretty sure you can get an idea. To list a few, there are people befriending “popular/successful” bloggers and then after reaching as much as engagement/benefits as possible from them, they are just nowhere to be found with that person ever again. You have people who ask for free products/services or  and you obviously have the ones who steal/copy content.

I’m going to speak from my personal experience about the one I’m really struggling with at the moment (since it wouldn’t be fair to talk about things that didn’t happen to me) and that is about people stealing, copying and imitating my content. During the last 3 years, I cannot tell you the number of times my content has been copied by those so-called “bloggers” and most of the times, those are people who I’ve supported and interacted with. Apart from the obvious hurt and disappointment they’ve caused, ripping off the work I’ve done in the last 6 years is incredibly disrespectful. Not only you can face legal consequences but you pretty much lose all credibility as a blogger.

You are not a blogger, you are literally a fraud. Your readers will lose their trust & respect towards you. That’s the reason why I have an insane amount of respect towards bloggers who try their hardest and still keep pushing forward with their blogs. It’s so easy to choose the wrong path and ruin everything you’ve built within seconds but they still put their integrity first. This is something I’ve mentioned a few times on my blog but there is a fine line between inspiration and imitation. The only thing I have to say is be careful who you support. Someone who steals content cannot write or get ideas by themselves, that is a fact. So keep your eyes wide open and make sure that your content is safe.

I’m planning on writing my experience since it can be helpful to other bloggers who are going through the same thing as me. In addition, it will help bloggers in general to be more aware of what’s happening. Most of the times, you cannot even realise what’s happening if you don’t pay attention. Unless someone has copied your work, let me tell you – it’s the worst feeling in the world. I blogged through the hardest times of my life, even when I didn’t have the motivation  to write – I didn’t think of looking at another blog and take their ideas & make them mine. If someone does it ‘”unintentionally” once, others can try to justify but when you repeat the same mistake – there is no way you can get away with it.

C’est quelque chose dont la plupart des blogueurs ne parlent pas, mais vous devez avoir une peau épaisse si vous ne voulez pas que les autres blogueurs profitent de vous. Ouais, aussi fou que cela puisse paraître, les blogueurs profitant des autres blogueurs est plus courant que vous ne le pensez. Il y a tellement de cas et je ne veux pas donner d’idées à certaines personnes, alors je vais m’abstenir de le faire, mais je suis presque sûr que vous pouvez vous faire une idée. Pour en énumérer quelques-uns, il y a des gens qui se lient d’amitié avec des blogueurs «populaires / prospères» et après avoir atteint autant d’engagement / d’avantages que possible de leur part, ils ne sont plus jamais retrouvés avec cette personne. Vous avez des gens qui demandent des produits / services gratuits ou et vous avez évidemment ceux qui volent / copient du contenu.

Je vais parler de mon expérience personnelle de celui avec lequel je me bats vraiment en ce moment (car il ne serait pas juste de parler de choses qui ne m’est pas arrivé) et qui concerne les gens qui volent, copient et imitent mon contenu. Au cours des 3 dernières années, je ne peux pas vous dire le nombre de fois que j’ai eu à contacter ces soi-disant «blogueurs» et la plupart du temps, ce sont des personnes avec lesquelles j’ai soutenu et interagi. Mis à part la douleur et la déception évidentes qu’ils ont causées, arnaquer le travail que j’ai fait au cours des 6 dernières années est incroyablement irrespectueux. Non seulement vous pouvez faire face à des conséquences juridiques, mais vous perdez toute crédibilité en tant que blogueur.

Vous n’êtes pas un blogueur, vous êtes littéralement un fraudeur. Vos lecteurs perdront leur confiance et leur respect envers vous. C’est la raison pour laquelle j’ai un respect insensé pour les blogueurs qui font de leur mieux et continuent à avancer sur leurs blogs. Il est si facile de choisir le mauvais chemin et de ruiner tout ce que vous avez construit en quelques secondes, mais ils mettent toujours leur intégrité en premier. C’est quelque chose que j’ai mentionné à quelques reprises sur mon blog, mais il y a une ligne fine entre l’inspiration et l’imitation. La seule chose que j’ai à dire est de faire attention à qui vous soutenez. Quelqu’un qui vole du contenu ne peut pas écrire ou obtenir des idées par lui-même, c’est un fait. Alors gardez les yeux grands ouverts et assurez-vous que votre contenu est en sécurité.

Je prévois d’écrire mon expérience car elle peut être utile à d’autres blogueurs qui vivent la même chose que moi. De plus, cela aidera les blogueurs en général à être plus conscients de ce qui se passe. La plupart du temps, vous ne pouvez même pas réaliser ce qui se passe si vous ne faites pas attention. À moins que quelqu’un n’ait copié votre travail, laissez-moi vous dire – c’est le pire sentiment au monde. J’ai blogué à travers les moments les plus difficiles de ma vie, même lorsque je n’avais pas la motivation d’écrire – je n’ai pas pensé à regarder un autre blog et à prendre leurs idées et à les faire miennes. Si quelqu’un le fait «involontairement» une fois, les autres peuvent essayer de justifier, mais lorsque vous répétez la même erreur, vous ne pouvez pas vous en sortir.

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BRANDS TAKING ADVANTAGE OF YOU

It’s something that most bloggers are aware but some brands/companies/PRs are quite clever with their approach especially if they know you are either new to blogging or don’t have a lot of experience working with brands & companies. Let me tell you, you could be working with brands for years and there will still be a brand trying to take advantage of you! I’m planning on writing a post about red flags you should look for when working with brands and when companies reach out (I’ve been planning it for weeks now but still haven’t found the time to write!) because some PRs and brands can be quite manipulative and at the end – you don’t get anything in return.

I would never say how much a blogger should charge and what amount they should accept from a brand because it’s private and quite intrusive. You never know why they need that money, it might be to feed their children and put food on the table but you shouldn’t undervalue yourself either. If a company approaches you to do an insane amount of work for instance a 2500 words article, 5 pictures, promotion on all your social medias in exchange of $10 then it’s not worth it at all. You could be making triple or even quadruple this amount for only one post on social media depending on the number of followers you have. If a brand wants you to buy the product then remember it’s not a collaboration!

I’m not even going to talk about the discount/affiliate codes. A number of bloggers fall into this trap but remember that if a brand is not willing to send a product or give money for your time & work then it’s not worth the opportunity. Giving you a discount code to buy and promote the product is not a collaboration! There are some brands who send you products and it’s only after your local post office receives them that you will realise that you will have to pay the postage cost in order to get the product which is not how things work. If a brand wants to send you a product, you will receive it with no additional cost. It will come straight to your home. As a blogger, you need to know your boundaries and you should know when to say no.

Just because a brand with thousands of followers reaches out to you doesn’t mean they are honest and professional. A brand could only have hundreds of followers and be a lot more honest than a brand who has thousands of followers. Remember that if something doesn’t feel right, you can stop the collaboration at anytime. You are not forced to promote or share anything unless you’ve signed a contract. If a product they’ve sent doesn’t work on you, you have the right to either tell your honest opinion about the product or don’t promote the product at all. Don’t let those companies take advantage of you! If you don’t value your time, work and skills then who will?

C’est quelque chose que la plupart des blogueurs sont conscients, mais certaines marques / entreprises / PR sont assez intelligentes dans leur approche, surtout si elles savent que vous êtes nouveau dans les blogs ou que vous n’avez pas beaucoup d’expérience de travail avec des marques et des entreprises. Laissez-moi vous dire que vous pourriez travailler avec des marques pendant des années et qu’il y aura toujours une marque qui essaiera de profiter de vous! Je prévois d’écrire un article sur les drapeaux rouges que vous devriez rechercher lorsque vous travaillez avec des marques et lorsque les entreprises contactent (je le planifie depuis des semaines maintenant mais je n’ai toujours pas trouvé le temps d’écrire!) Parce que certains PR et les marques peuvent être assez manipulatrices et à la fin – vous n’obtenez rien en retour.

Je ne dirais jamais combien un blogueur devrait facturer et quel montant il devrait accepter d’une marque parce que c’est privé et assez intrusif. Vous ne savez jamais pourquoi ils ont besoin de cet argent, c’est peut-être pour nourrir leurs enfants et mettre de la nourriture sur la table, mais vous ne devez pas non plus vous sous-évaluer. Si une entreprise vous sollicite pour faire un travail insensé, par exemple un article de 2500 mots, 5 images, une promotion sur tous vos réseaux sociaux en échange de 10 $, cela n’en vaut pas la peine. Vous pourriez tripler ou même quadrupler ce montant pour une seule publication sur les réseaux sociaux en fonction du nombre d’abonnés que vous avez. Si une marque souhaite que vous achetiez le produit, rappelez-vous que ce n’est pas une collaboration!

Je ne vais même pas parler des codes de réduction / d’affiliation. Un certain nombre de blogueurs tombent dans ce piège, mais n’oubliez pas que si une marque n’est pas disposée à envoyer un produit ou à donner de l’argent pour votre temps et votre travail, cela ne vaut pas la peine. Vous donner un code de réduction pour acheter et promouvoir le produit n’est pas une collaboration! Certaines marques vous envoient des produits et ce n’est qu’après que votre bureau de poste local les a reçus que vous vous rendrez compte que vous devrez payer les frais de port pour obtenir le produit, ce qui n’est pas la façon dont les choses fonctionnent. Si une marque souhaite vous envoyer un produit, vous le recevrez sans frais supplémentaires. Il arrivera directement chez vous. En tant que blogueur, vous devez connaître vos limites et savoir quand dire non.

Ce n’est pas parce qu’une marque avec des milliers d’abonnés vous contacte qu’elle est honnête et professionnelle. Une marque ne peut avoir que des centaines de followers et être beaucoup plus honnête qu’une marque qui compte des milliers de followers. N’oubliez pas que si quelque chose ne va pas, vous pouvez interrompre la collaboration à tout moment. Vous n’êtes pas obligé de promouvoir ou de partager quoi que ce soit à moins d’avoir signé un contrat. Si un produit qu’ils ont envoyé ne fonctionne pas sur vous, vous avez le droit de donner votre opinion honnête sur le produit ou de ne pas promouvoir le produit du tout. Ne laissez pas ces entreprises profiter de vous! Si vous n’appréciez pas votre temps, votre travail et vos compétences, qui le fera?

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THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR READING!

xo N

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  1. Luckily my skin is already incredibly thick but the first person who steals my content (not that I write anythinh steal-able) is going to have a touuuuugh day!

    Haters gonna hate.

    1. I’m soo glad to hear that! 👊🏼 Nobody should steal anybody’s content. Sometimes I think I’m way too kind because I know another person in my place would have started a witchhunt. But I’m literally at my limits now. If they are not ready to correct their mistakes then they have to face the consequences.

      Thank you so much for reading love ❤️

  2. For a copy paste blogger, there are countless limits, fears, doubts and a sort of insecurity. But those who produce original content can do it forever, because they have that ability and willpower to do so. That is the biggest difference. Blogging is just not something about posting content, there is a lot more out there, people who steal content cannot steal the path you have constructed.

    1. Amen to that! 🙌🏼 I couldn’t agree more with you. They can try to imitate everything you do but at the end of the day, they are just a copycat. Thank you so much for reading ❤️

  3. You are right dear… Getting inspired and trying to do something is fine, but stealing others hardwork is not acceptable… You have explained very nicely… 🙏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻❤️❤️

    1. Thank you so much lovely! ❤️ Getting inspired is absolutely okay but you cannot class imitating and copying another blogger’s content as inspiration.

  4. Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I am yet very new to blogging and I am trying my best to stay positive and also ignore the hate. Even though there are a bit differences as I am a book blogger, I know that your experience will help me grow. Thank you so so much for this post and thank you for your support as well!

    1. My pleasure! I’ve seen the amount of hate book bloggers get which is so unfair. Blogging is such a positive and amazing place but with that comes some negative things as well. There are so many things I wish I had known when I first started blogging, so if sharing my experience can help others then I’m more than happy to do that. Thank you so much for reading! ❤️

  5. Even though I’m still having a hard time coming up with content, I will never try to steal other’s work just to have something to post and gain followers. And I would also not allow others to steal what I work hard for. 🙂

    Thank you for sharing this. This is such a helpful guide for a new blogger like me. ❤

  6. I love your blog and always get something from your posts. It is shameful to steal another’s work! Do you have any tips on how to track content and what do you do if you find it has been stolen?

    1. Thank you so much! Unless someone copies and pastes word-for-word what you’ve written, it can be difficult to track. In my case, unfortunately (or fortunately) those people copied every single thing I did (even insignificant things), so it wasn’t that hard to find 🙃

      And about the part what to do if you find your content has been stolen or copied, is completely up to you. I would recommend to contact the person directly and warn them. But if they stop for a minute and start redoing it or if they don’t stop at all, that’s when you either send them a cease and desist letter or/and you publicly name them. Some bloggers publicly name them or send a cease and desist letter without warning them which is understandable but I always like to give people one chance. But now I’m literally reconsidering it since some people don’t learn their mistake 🙄

      If you want me to write a post about this topic, please let me know. There are so many things to say and I don’t think I could fit everything in a comment 😅

    2. Thank you for your response- this is something that I spend a lot of time worrying about and would definitely be interested in reading more if you wrote a post on the topic.

  7. I really appreciate you mentioning it all. I have never felt used by a blogger (I hope it will note happen to me, but maybe at some point, & I will be warned) but by brands omg. The ones who want you to become ambassador with a 30% discount make me laugh each and every time! But before laughing, I fell into the trap a few years back lol. So thanks for talking about it, it will definitely help a lot of bloggers!

    1. Oh babe, I hope it never happens to you because that literally sucks! And it’s always the ones who seem so positive, kind & supportive but if you only knew what they were doing 😑

      I’m pretty sure many bloggers are aware of the ambassador scheme but I still wanted to mention it. Unfortunately, there are still so many bloggers who fall into that trap.

      Thank you so much for reading gorgeous! ❤️

  8. Copycat content creators are so frustrating – I’ve seen other beauty creators steal my entire review format down to the headings & change their photo style to copy mine. It’s super disheartening but I won’t change from my own templates – I just need to keep pushing forward.

    Now I keep my “blogging wins” more to myself to dissuade the same people from stealing more of my work.

  9. I haven’t any trouble with rude people in my comment section but I’ve read a lot about other people having trouble. I guess I’m more worried about speaking my mind freely.. but respectful in my own blog and being attacked for it.

    1. As long as what you say is respectful, there is no need for other people to be rude. Everyone has different opinions and that’s totally ok. I will never understand why some people have to be rude just because they disagree with what you are saying. Having a civil conversation about different opinions is not that hard. Thank you so much for reading ❤️

  10. Did you know if someone steals your content without your permission or without sighting their source, if you find out who they are. You can report them to google and their whole website will be taken down? This happened to a friend of mine who’s whole entire content was stolen, she reported the thief and their site was taken down by google.

    1. I know! That’s what people have been advising me to do. I’m so sorry to hear that but I’m glad that the site was taken down. If they keep checking my blog and copying my content & products/services, that’s what I’m going to do. Thank you so much for reading ❤️

  11. Gosh! It feels like you always write the right post at the right time! Keep inspiring ❤️ I suppose the best way to credit a blogger is to share their blog and recommend to read their articles, so here I share💌

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