the negativity in the blogging community - new lune

The Negativity In The Blogging Community

Sometimes I feel extremely blessed about the fact that I got such a lovely community on my blog. I am not exaggerating or being cheesy when I say that you are my online friends, I genuinely think of you that way. To be completely honest, my readers know more about me than my actual friends in real life.

My blog has given me so many opportunities and has opened up so many doors that I could never have dreamt of. But there is always a tiny piece of negativity in every environment or community. I’ve been blogging for more than 4 years now, although I’ve only been blogging consistently for more than 2 years – I’ve seen and experienced a lot even during the times when I wasn’t blogging.

As you know, I like to use my blog as an online diary and get to know your opinions & thoughts on certain matters at the same time. I even avoid talking about negative topics because I don’t want to give attention to those things because at the end of the day, the more you give attention to negativity, the more it feeds off from your energy.

However, I think this is such an important topic to talk about especially in this day and age where social media plays a huge role in our day-to-day lives. I know every blogger have experienced negativity or hatred at least once and if you are a blogger & haven’t experienced it yet – just be prepared. It’s one of the reasons why I wanted to write this post as well, so many bloggers have no idea this is a thing and how evil some people can truly be.

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I will always say this, the positives will always outweigh the negatives. When you look at the bigger picture, you’ll realise so many different things and it will all make sense on why some people act a certain way. But sometimes I do wonder why people are negative and say unnecessary things online. Personally, it doesn’t affect me because I was born into a unhealthy environment, grew up with toxic people so you could say that I’ve seen worse (lol). 

However, I know that not everyone has tough skin like me. I admit that I might be strong for situations like these (because it’s easier for me) but on the other hand, I am pretty sensitive for things that are very close to my heart. I can count the number of times I’ve encountered negative people or you could say ‘haters’ or ‘trolls’ during the time I’ve been blogging. For some people, it might not be shocking because everyone encounters them at one point. For others, it might be surprising because let’s be honest I am not that big of a blogger.

There are far more successful and popular bloggers who are doing so well compared to me. I even find it funny because I just write about makeup, blogging tips, my experiences, things that I love, etc. So I can’t imagine what a blogger who has thousands and thousands of followers must go through. If you really think about it, there really isn’t any place for hate or extreme negativity. You either like my content or don’t like it, and that’s that. You have the right to criticise my content which won’t bother me because you can express your opinion and I totally respect that.

But in all of that, there is no need to disrespect someone, spread lies and assassinate that person’s character. People usually talk about how toxic the YouTube community is but they don’t realise it’s pretty much the same case for the blogging community as well. During the 4 years I’ve been blogging, I know so many bloggers who had to involve the police, lawyers because of the extremity some people went.

 

I find it really hard to believe why and how something this insignificant like expressing your thoughts on a platform could escalate to something that big. I would say we all have been trained since we were little to face and accept criticism with school and everything. You could be the kindest and sweetest person ever and still there would be someone who would hate you. It’s just the way life is I guess and I’m okay with that because you can’t and don’t need to please everyone.

But the freedom social media and the internet have given to all of us is quite scary. Think about it, as a blogger we have a huge platform which means a lot of responsibilities come with it as well. You have to make sure that you don’t sell your values, morals and beliefs for a couple of bucks when accepting opportunities. You have to make sure that you don’t break the trust you have with your readers and your integrity.

All those things are important whether you are a part-time, full-time blogger or even if you blog as a hobby when you start getting traffic. The views you see on your blog are actual people reading your blog, sometimes you can forget that and focus solely on a number. But the truth is, those people are individuals like you and me.

 

I always say this to my loved ones, it’s really hard to gain someone’s trust but you can easily lose it in a fraction of seconds because it’s very fragile like a mirror. The extreme length some people go in order to gain attention or to ruin someone is just something I would never understand. If someone doesn’t have the same opinion as you, it’s completely alright – we are all different individuals. If someone says mean things about you, you can learn to not give attention. But when someone tries to sabotage what you’ve created and starts manipulating your audience, that’s just pure evil in my opinion.

Even on YouTube, when you hear the word “drama”, it usually revolves around people who are very popular and have a lot of money on their hands. But it’s the complete contrast when it comes to the blogging community. You could have 10 followers and people might start something out of nowhere because of something that you said or not said.

One thing for sure I know is these people do it for attention, they crave for it. If you don’t give any attention to them or what they are saying, they will simply fade away whereas in other cases, you might have to stand on your toes for the rest of your life. You never know when or if they will reappear or you don’t know if they are still following your every step of the way.

 

I guess what I’m trying to say is no one is prepared when they receive hate in any shape or form whether it’s a blog post talking rubbish about you & your blog or mean emails, at the end of the day it’s just weird. You should have done something in the first place to receive these types of negativity, right?

It’s really embarrassing when other bloggers go to these lengths when they simply don’t like somebody they have never met or interacted with, not only it’s embarrassing for me as a blogger but to other bloggers in the community as well. I know it’s a very long post and I’ve rambled a lot so thank you for reading if you’ve made it this far.

I just wish people could be more kind to one another. You never know what’s going on in someone’s life and what they went through. If you have nothing nice to say, don’t say anything at all. You are entitled to your own opinions and you have the right to share your thoughts but you can’t justify yourself if you are disrespectful and rude.

 

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR READING!

xo N

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  1. Negativity has ruined social media for me and it seems to have got worse in the past 12 months. I think it will always be there as it can give people an outlet in which to be who they want, which includes being negative. However, blogging, in my experience has very little in the way of negativity, although it is there.

  2. Ive been lucky so far and haven’t experienced much negativity yet, but I do know it’s there. It’s too bad that people feel the need to be unkind. Thank you for shining a light on an important issue.

  3. I’m really sorry to hear you’ve had some bad experiences, but thank you for taking the opportunity to warn and encourage those of us just starting out. I think people sometimes forget the extended reach of online actions; a single comment or smear can end up on so many screens, affecting so many lives.

  4. Thanks New Lune. You just said it nicely and respectfully. I do esteem high people whose minds are like yours. If only we are all a little bit kinder, a little bit nicer, a little bit respectful, a little bit of all positive virtues. I am 100% certain, we can all live peacefully.

  5. I can totally relate!
    True! You could have 10 followers and some people will still want to hate.
    I’m sorry about your bad experience (s). You are making a difference in your own way and in your space and I want you to know that’s what really matters at the end of the day. Even the haters know this. Love❤️

  6. I left the online environment totally for a couple of years because of contact with a troll, I let fear affect what I did, I gave them power over me and that is my great regret, that I let them do that, someone so feeble and inadequate they had to belittle and threaten others to make themselves feel good. Negative behavior is only ever a reflection on the person dishing it out and it can never be construed as valid criticism. Great post, you have used something negative and turned it into something good, positive and supportive of the blogging community.
    Illegitimati non carborundum (Don’t let the bastards get you down).

  7. This post is on point!! Some people definitely weren’t taught to treat others with the same kindness that you would wish to receive. Like you said, I never give negative comments the opportunity to be showcased, I block and delete as all they really want is for you to be publicly embarrassed.

    Speaking out about it helps a lot and I make sure I tell someone and the sadness leaves me after a while (if I delete it then there is nothing to look back on so I most likely forget what they were talking about anyway. The joy of a forgetful mind 😂). I remember I was heading to my first ever festival with a friend last year and a horrible message came through to me that could have ruined the entire day but I spoke to my friend and gained control of the situation, choosing to put it aside and not give the bully any power. It has only made me stronger and I can only hope that that is what it will do to the majority as no one deserves to be on the receiving end of such hatred when they put none out themselves. Great post as always and thank you for speaking out about it! ✨💕

  8. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts on this! I’ve been blogging for not even 3 months now, published a mere 65 posts, and have been lucky to get almost 100% positivity in response.
    I have very thick skin and don’t let negativity get to me, but I’ve promised myself that if I ever get a vile and negative comment (not constructive criticism, but intentionally offensive) I’d delete it without hesitation & block whoever whote it.
    For me, my blog isn’t so much about me as it is about people who read it, and I don’t intend to expose them to any kind of negativity – there’s enough of it in everyday life. I know from my own experience that even reading something negative being said to someone else makes me feel bad and uneasy myself, so I’ll be protecting the positive environment on my blog, always. I love comments and appreciate constructive criticism a lot cuz it helps me grow, but there’s only one way to treat bullying and offensive comments – delete & block. With you 100% on this one!

    1. My pleasure gorgeous! ❤️ I completely agree with you! Constructive criticism is absolutely fine but bullying is just a whole other level of evilness.

  9. One of your best posts. You’ve brought up quite an important topic, which many are hesitant to talk about. Straight forward….from your heart….to others.

  10. This is one of your best post. You weren’t rambling you were merely speaking truth. Which, by the way a lot of folks choose not to hear these days. The conclusion of the whole matter is—just like you said everyone wants their little 15 minutes of fame not matter what that have to do to get it. But I was always taught even a dog deserves common courtesy. It seems like since we have more ways to communicate now-a-days; some people dont have anything better to do than just spew mean and evil. Obviously if they have all this negative energy to sabotage perhaps they should try turning all that negative energy into a positive and create. It’s just like Jackie DeShannon sang. “What the world needs now is love sweet love; it’s the only thing that there’s just too little of…As always Blessings and Peace to you my friend.

  11. This definitely wasn’t a ramble it’s all very true and it’s out there and I’m sure everyone who is on social media has experienced it in one form or another and it’s terribly sad because usually these people just have nothing better to do so the start with others just for their own entertainment. Hope you are having a wonderful week!! ♥

  12. I just read your post right after posting that I feel an unexplainable negativity today. I’ve allowed news and other bloggers, really twisted ones, to influence me. Not that I’m a glutton for punishment. But because I thought I could ease their pain or help them somehow.

    I realized that there’s little chance of finding some people’s true selves online.

    Other people, it might be possible! I’ve decided that I shouldn’t follow those who make me hurt. There’s plenty of bad in this world. I certainly don’t have to go looking for it.

    As for my day, I’m just out of sync. 🙂

  13. Mmm… Social media, blogging and networking, they are all on the Net. It makes me like this say the more : “on the Internet, you can be anything but it’s surprising that some people chose to be stupid”

    People love to abuse things when they can. Fellows here can’t say trash to me face to face, but would likely say such online. So you see? The net is their opportunity to show their real characters.

    Well, thanks to me for knowing how to not give a damn. Lol

  14. Love this post. Your words are very wise. Sorry to hear that you have experienced negativity. It’s a sad state of affairs when someone wants to be negative about a blog that someone has written. Keep smiling and spreading the joy girl 🥰🥰

  15. I know that negativity does exist in the blogging community, but I have been very lucky to find a supportive audience. I once got a spam comment trashing my writing style and I remember spending hours proofreading my posts… and when I went back to the comment I realized that it was a gibberish email address and was probably sent by a bot. UGH!

    But for the most part everyone I’ve met & interacted with online has been lovely x

    1. I’m so happy to hear that! ❤️ Ugh that’s just the worst! Comments sent by bots are just on a whole other level of ridiculousness x

  16. Yes, it can be so disturbing when that sort of negativity creeps in. I must say I took up writing as I enjoy it and I had really wanted a supportive community, so far so good. Great points in your piece that we need to ponder.

  17. Wow. That’s amazing … and sad.

    I, too, have struggled a lot with blogging and I have a humor blog. I went through some terrible times and found my saving grace to be humor. I many times still wrestle with posting my (self-deprecating) humor for fear that others are likely to misunderstand and/or think that I am in some way minimizing the realities of the topics. I am not. Of all people, I have uber compassion because I’ve experienced so pain and heartache.

    I guess it comes down to ‘resting in your gift’. It’s not going to be for everyone, and as you say trolls are pretty obvious to all.

    I find Brene Brown to be a great resource on being brave, vulnerable, and she has a whole program on doing this in the creativity community … i.e., putting your work out there, knowing there are critics in the cheap seats.

    Here’s the link if it’s ever a slow news day. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kAk4cwjvJ0A

    Keep writing. We’re here for you!

    1. Thank you so much! I’m so sorry to hear that you had to go through that as well ❤️ I’ll definitely check it out, thanks! x

  18. I’ve been blogging on and off for 4 years now but feel that I have come to know my audience enough…I’ve thankfully have had very positive people comment on my blog overall so thankfully have never had to deal with the negative side of it. I didn’t realise that there was such a toxic side to it all! I can’t say I’m exactly surprised either but definitely think it was to the extent that you have described it. I am sorry if you have had to deal with it too.

    At most, I have had the obvious spam comments which I just unapprove and delete. Otherwise, everything else seems pretty legit.

  19. Robin and philosophy through photography echo my sentiments on this. Trying to sabotage another is evil that stems from jealousy, envy, and seeking negative attention. You’re right that if no-one gives them attention, they’ll fade away. But what if they don’t? Though easier said than done, we’ll pray for them. Thanks for posting and forewarning.

  20. Yeash, completely agreed on your points. Negativity does exist in the blogging community, not just in blogging but in everything. Whenever you start something different, people will try to spread negativity, will try to get you down but all we need to do is to proove them wrong just by work.

  21. Good to hear this. I have just passed a year of blogging. I know the negativity is out there. And in saying that I also realize nothing is external, so if/when it comes my way, I will know the negativity is really about the person sending it.

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