Sometimes I feel extremely blessed about the fact that I got such a lovely community on my blog. I am not exaggerating or being cheesy when I say that you are my online friends, I genuinely think of you that way. To be completely honest, my readers know more about me than my actual friends in real life.
My blog has given me so many opportunities and has opened up so many doors that I could never have dreamt of. But there is always a tiny piece of negativity in every environment or community. I’ve been blogging for more than 4 years now, although I’ve only been blogging consistently for more than 2 years – I’ve seen and experienced a lot even during the times when I wasn’t blogging.
As you know, I like to use my blog as an online diary and get to know your opinions & thoughts on certain matters at the same time. I even avoid talking about negative topics because I don’t want to give attention to those things because at the end of the day, the more you give attention to negativity, the more it feeds off from your energy.
However, I think this is such an important topic to talk about especially in this day and age where social media plays a huge role in our day-to-day lives. I know every blogger have experienced negativity or hatred at least once and if you are a blogger & haven’t experienced it yet – just be prepared. It’s one of the reasons why I wanted to write this post as well, so many bloggers have no idea this is a thing and how evil some people can truly be.
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I will always say this, the positives will always outweigh the negatives. When you look at the bigger picture, you’ll realise so many different things and it will all make sense on why some people act a certain way. But sometimes I do wonder why people are negative and say unnecessary things online. Personally, it doesn’t affect me because I was born into a unhealthy environment, grew up with toxic people so you could say that I’ve seen worse (lol).
However, I know that not everyone has tough skin like me. I admit that I might be strong for situations like these (because it’s easier for me) but on the other hand, I am pretty sensitive for things that are very close to my heart. I can count the number of times I’ve encountered negative people or you could say ‘haters’ or ‘trolls’ during the time I’ve been blogging. For some people, it might not be shocking because everyone encounters them at one point. For others, it might be surprising because let’s be honest I am not that big of a blogger.
There are far more successful and popular bloggers who are doing so well compared to me. I even find it funny because I just write about makeup, blogging tips, my experiences, things that I love, etc. So I can’t imagine what a blogger who has thousands and thousands of followers must go through. If you really think about it, there really isn’t any place for hate or extreme negativity. You either like my content or don’t like it, and that’s that. You have the right to criticise my content which won’t bother me because you can express your opinion and I totally respect that.
But in all of that, there is no need to disrespect someone, spread lies and assassinate that person’s character. People usually talk about how toxic the YouTube community is but they don’t realise it’s pretty much the same case for the blogging community as well. During the 4 years I’ve been blogging, I know so many bloggers who had to involve the police, lawyers because of the extremity some people went.
I find it really hard to believe why and how something this insignificant like expressing your thoughts on a platform could escalate to something that big. I would say we all have been trained since we were little to face and accept criticism with school and everything. You could be the kindest and sweetest person ever and still there would be someone who would hate you. It’s just the way life is I guess and I’m okay with that because you can’t and don’t need to please everyone.
But the freedom social media and the internet have given to all of us is quite scary. Think about it, as a blogger we have a huge platform which means a lot of responsibilities come with it as well. You have to make sure that you don’t sell your values, morals and beliefs for a couple of bucks when accepting opportunities. You have to make sure that you don’t break the trust you have with your readers and your integrity.
All those things are important whether you are a part-time, full-time blogger or even if you blog as a hobby when you start getting traffic. The views you see on your blog are actual people reading your blog, sometimes you can forget that and focus solely on a number. But the truth is, those people are individuals like you and me.
I always say this to my loved ones, it’s really hard to gain someone’s trust but you can easily lose it in a fraction of seconds because it’s very fragile like a mirror. The extreme length some people go in order to gain attention or to ruin someone is just something I would never understand. If someone doesn’t have the same opinion as you, it’s completely alright – we are all different individuals. If someone says mean things about you, you can learn to not give attention. But when someone tries to sabotage what you’ve created and starts manipulating your audience, that’s just pure evil in my opinion.
Even on YouTube, when you hear the word “drama”, it usually revolves around people who are very popular and have a lot of money on their hands. But it’s the complete contrast when it comes to the blogging community. You could have 10 followers and people might start something out of nowhere because of something that you said or not said.
One thing for sure I know is these people do it for attention, they crave for it. If you don’t give any attention to them or what they are saying, they will simply fade away whereas in other cases, you might have to stand on your toes for the rest of your life. You never know when or if they will reappear or you don’t know if they are still following your every step of the way.
I guess what I’m trying to say is no one is prepared when they receive hate in any shape or form whether it’s a blog post talking rubbish about you & your blog or mean emails, at the end of the day it’s just weird. You should have done something in the first place to receive these types of negativity, right?
It’s really embarrassing when other bloggers go to these lengths when they simply don’t like somebody they have never met or interacted with, not only it’s embarrassing for me as a blogger but to other bloggers in the community as well. I know it’s a very long post and I’ve rambled a lot so thank you for reading if you’ve made it this far.
I just wish people could be more kind to one another. You never know what’s going on in someone’s life and what they went through. If you have nothing nice to say, don’t say anything at all. You are entitled to your own opinions and you have the right to share your thoughts but you can’t justify yourself if you are disrespectful and rude.
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