the truth about being an adult - new lune

The Truth About Being An Adult.

When I was really young, I used to think that by my age I would have everything figured out, whether it was my career, plans, goals, etc. and I would have settled down in life. Well, let me tell you that I’m still figuring out everything. I’m not where I want to be career wise yet, I want to open my own creative studio and help other bloggers grow their platforms and turn it into a business or career – I would love to make that as a full-time job (that’s a goal of mine). During the last 6 years, I’ve learnt so many things and I would love to share them beyond my blog.

Weirdly enough, I’ve been really liking the idea of doing an Art degree for some reasons and I’ve been contemplating whether I should do one. It’s not in my plans yet but I would really love to do one potentially in the future, if it was distance learning/an online course – it would be even better! I don’t think education has an age, as long as you are willing to learn. When it comes to goals & dreams, I have a lot of things that I haven’t achieved yet and some are not even remotely close to being achieved.

When it comes to family/friends, I’m at a much better place now than I’ve ever been. If you are new to my blog then you probably wouldn’t know and it’s not something I mention frequently either (I’ve only mentioned once on my blog) but I moved out of my toxic & abusive family a year ago. That’s pretty much the reason why I’m so passionate about removing toxicity and negativity because I grew up in that environment and I wouldn’t want anyone to experience what I had to go through.

When it comes to relationship/marriage then you already know I am single. To conclude, I’m not where I want to be yet. It’s not a bad thing, everyone’s journey is different and life is not a competition. The thing is I’m in my mid-twenties and it still hasn’t hit me that I’m an adult. I still feel like I’m 19 hahah! I know most people can’t wait to turn 18 and be independent but adulthood is not really what you think it is.

Of course, you are free to do whatever you can to a certain extent but in turn, you get a lot of responsibilities. You realise that life was much simpler when you were a teen and you didn’t really have to be stressed for anything. I sometimes regret not taking full advantage of my teen years. In today’s post, I wanted to share with you what adult life really looks like and if you are interested then keep on reading!

Quand j’étais très jeune, je pensais qu’à mon âge, j’aurais tout compris, que ce soit ma carrière, mes projets, mes objectifs, etc. et je me serais installé dans la vie. Eh bien, laissez-moi vous dire que je suis toujours en train de tout comprendre. Je ne suis pas encore là où je veux être en matière de carrière, je veux ouvrir mon propre studio de création et aider d’autres blogueurs à développer leurs plateformes – j’aimerais en faire un emploi à temps plein (c’est un de mes objectifs). Au cours des 6 dernières années, j’ai appris tellement de choses et j’aimerais les partager au-delà de mon blog.

Curieusement, j’aime vraiment l’idée de faire un diplôme d’art pour certaines raisons. Ce n’est pas encore dans mes plans mais j’aimerais vraiment en faire un potentiellement à l’avenir, si c’était un enseignement à distance / un cours en ligne – ce serait encore mieux! Je ne pense pas que l’éducation ait un âge, tant que vous êtes prêt à apprendre. En ce qui concerne les objectifs et les rêves, j’ai beaucoup de choses que je n’ai pas encore accomplies et certaines ne sont même pas proches de la réalisation.

Quand il s’agit de famille / ami(e)s, je suis dans un bien meilleur endroit que je ne l’ai jamais été. Si vous êtes nouveau sur mon blog, vous ne le sauriez probablement pas et ce n’est pas quelque chose que je mentionne fréquemment non plus (je ne l’ai mentionné qu’une fois sur mon blog), mais j’ai quitté ma famille toxique et abusive il y a un an. C’est à peu près la raison pour laquelle je suis si passionné par l’élimination de la toxicité et de la négativité, car j’ai grandi dans cet environnement et je ne voudrais pas que quiconque expérimente ce que j’ai dû traverser.

Quand il s’agit de relation / mariage, vous savez déjà que je suis célibataire. Pour conclure, je ne suis pas encore là où je veux être. Ce n’est pas une mauvaise chose, le parcours de chacun est différent et la vie n’est pas une compétition. Le truc, c’est que je suis dans la vingtaine et que je ne me sens toujours pas comme une adulte. J’ai toujours l’impression d’avoir 19 ans lol! Je sais que la plupart des gens ont hâte d’avoir 18 ans et d’être indépendants.

Bien sûr, vous êtes libre de faire tout ce que vous pouvez dans une certaine mesure, mais en retour, vous avez beaucoup de responsabilités. Vous réalisez que la vie était beaucoup plus simple quand vous étiez adolescent et que vous n’aviez pas vraiment besoin d’être stressé pour quoi que ce soit. Je regrette parfois de ne pas avoir pleinement profité de mon adolescence. Dans l’article d’aujourd’hui, je voulais partager avec vous à quoi ressemble vraiment la vie d’adulte et si vous êtes intéressé, continuez à lire!

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CLEANING & ORGANISING IS LIFE!

You pretty much spend half of your day organising, de-cluttering and cleaning your home. Buying cleaning products has never been this exciting before! You always think about the ways you could decorate and furnish your home. Your home literally takes over your life! You realise the importance of  having a clean & organised home. When your house is organised, your mind is organised as well.

Vous passez à peu près la moitié de votre journée à organiser, désencombrer et nettoyer votre maison. L’achat de produits de nettoyage n’a jamais été aussi excitant! Vous pensez toujours aux façons dont vous pourriez décorer et meubler votre maison. Votre maison prend littéralement le dessus sur votre vie! Vous réalisez l’importance d’avoir une maison propre et organisée. Lorsque votre maison est organisée, votre esprit est également organisé.

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YOU SEE THINGS IN A COMPLETE DIFFERENT WAY

Things that you used to love don’t excite you anymore. Movies that you found hilarious aren’t really funny anymore. You realise that some people aren’t really what they seem. I don’t know if it’s with time & age but your opinions change. You are not the same person who you used to be and so are your thoughts & feelings. In 10 years, you will look back at the things you like now and think to yourself how you were able to like those things.

Les choses que vous aimiez ne vous excitent plus. Les films que vous avez trouvés hilarants ne sont plus vraiment drôles. Vous réalisez que certaines personnes ne sont pas vraiment ce qu’elles semblent être. Je ne sais pas si c’est avec le temps et l’âge mais vos opinions changent. Vous n’êtes plus la même personne que vous étiez et vos pensées et vos sentiments le sont aussi. Dans 10 ans, vous repenserez aux choses que vous aimez maintenant et vous vous demanderez comment vous avez pu aimer ces choses.

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IT’S IMPOSSIBLE TO SEE YOUR FRIENDS

This is literally a fact. Some move to different countries/continents, some get married or some have kids. There is always a valid reason but the truth is, you never get to see your friends ever again (not literally but you know what I mean). Every time you plan, something unexpected will come and your plan will be ruined but that doesn’t mean that your friendship will not be the same way it used to be.

I’m still friends with people I met a decade ago. It’s been years since we’ve seen each other but the love we have for one another still remains the same. I don’t think distance or time will change anything unless you both have different priorities in life. You could talk to a friend only once a year and still feel like you talked to them the day before. You might not be able to see each other often but when you do, it will be even more special.

C’est littéralement un fait. Certains déménagent dans différents pays / continents, certains se marient ou certains ont des enfants. Il y a toujours une raison valable, mais la vérité est que vous ne pourrez plus jamais revoir vos amis (pas littéralement mais vous savez ce que je veux dire). Chaque fois que vous planifiez, quelque chose d’inattendu se produira et votre plan sera ruiné, mais cela ne signifie pas que votre amitié ne sera plus la même qu’autrefois.

Je suis toujours ami avec des gens que j’ai rencontrés il y a dix ans. Cela fait des années que nous ne nous sommes pas vus, mais l’amour que nous avons l’un pour l’autre reste le même. Je ne pense pas que la distance ou le temps changeront quoi que ce soit à moins que vous n’ayez tous les deux des priorités différentes dans la vie. Vous ne pouviez parler à un ami qu’une fois par an et avoir toujours l’impression de lui avoir parlé la veille. Vous ne pourrez peut-être pas vous voir souvent, mais lorsque vous le ferez, ce sera encore plus spécial.

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YOU PRIORITISE YOURSELF

You put yourself first before anything else. You realise now more than ever to prioritise yourself and take care of yourself mentally and physically. Even if you were prioritising yourself before, now it’s completely different. You don’t have time for any stupidity and if something or someone doesn’t make you happy then you realise it’s not worth your time nor effort.

Vous vous mettez en premier avant toute autre chose. Vous réalisez plus que jamais que vous devez vous prioriser et prendre soin de vous mentalement et physiquement. Même si vous vous donniez la priorité auparavant, c’est maintenant complètement différent. Vous n’avez pas le temps pour la stupidité et si quelque chose ou quelqu’un ne vous rend pas heureux, vous réalisez que cela ne vaut pas votre temps ni vos efforts.

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THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR READING!

xo N

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  1. I love this! You are in your mid 20’s but your perceptions are way too advance than me who is in mid 30’s haha! How ironic! I mean, I think adulthood and maturity come in different view. When I was at your age, thought I was too adult already when I gave birth to a son. And I wished I can turn back time where I should have spent more time bettering myself, earn more degrees, and travel while young. There’s is really no perfect timing to define adulthood. Do whatever makes you happy right now. Don’t wait for the right time because there is no perfect time. Pursue that Art degree and I’ll keep an eye on your Creative Studio…stay happy!xoxo

    1. Thank you so much babe! Ohh no I’m still immature in so many ways 😅 I still have to learn and grow a lot!

      You are absolutely right, there is literally no perfect time. You have to trust your gut instinct and do what makes you happy.

      Thank you so so much! I really appreciate it ❤️ xx

  2. This is so good especially because I recently turned 18 and for some reason I feel as though I am falling behind in life already. If you don’t mind, please do a post about moving out of a toxic household, I would appreciate that x

    Lovely post !xx

    1. Thank you so much sweet! I’ll definitely do one. It’s not a topic that I really feel comfortable talking about since it brings back a lot of bad memories and I still have a lot of mental scars that haven’t healed.

      But I really want to raise more awareness on this subject, I feel it’s not something that most people talk about. I’m trying to detach myself from those memories so I can freely talk about this topic xx

  3. Beautiful sharing….”I’m still figuring out everything”….that’s a part of life as figuring out things never stops…like literally never ever….never ever (Sorry Ms. Jackson 🤣)….which is also the best part….without evolution, things would be plane….the highs & the lows are part of the game….success, failure & keep trying to overcome….become an intricate part….thank you for sharing about why you spread the message of positivity….I didn’t know that actually….you’ve truly pure & good energy….it’s quite visible (the feel) from your writings….one of the reasons, I love your blog….things you share to help others…fellow bloggers….you’re actually spreading good vibes & love ✨❤️

  4. Wow, I can totally relate to it! Although I am turning 31 soon, I started having a mantel shift since 25. Priorities changes, people around me changes as well, and life moves faster! Now at this age, I am more focused on building my wealth (I don’t like to use the word career anymore!) Its a different stage in life and I find myself adapting to it easily and comfortably!
    Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us, great post! 🙂

  5. We are perfectly on the same boat dear and so i perfectly relate ~🙈 i do agree that life really does seem like it’s running and you are left behind but you are definitely learning alot and will eventually get everything you want~ thank you so much for sharing dear~ 💝

  6. I love the positivity I find here. And I can relate to where you think you should be at your age. When I was mid twenties (many years ago) I thought I would be somewhere more stable then I was. Our perception vs the reality can be discouraging. Good to know I wasn’t alone in thinking that. Thank you for posting all those tips.

    1. Same! 😭 I have always to remind myself that if something doesn’t work out, something much better will come along my way. Thank you so much for reading ❤️

  7. Hi New🌛, sometimes one’s best friends are people who shared common interests with oneself. With time these interests may have changed. So for me, it is not always not being able to meet-up with old best friends.

  8. “Well, let me tell you that I’m still figuring out everything.” LOL! Yes, and yes! I thought I’d have everything figured out by the time I was 30. I’m now 65 and still learning about myself, but that’s what keeps life interesting 🙂

  9. It’s crazy but I didn’t start feeling like an adult until I started taking care of myself truly. I think we need to remove the idea in our minds of what an adult is because we have this idea from our parents and it’s not always realistic. You’re not an adult when you have the perfect job, a house and a family. You might never have those things. Does that mean you never become an adult? No, it’s not right. I think we need to shed this idea of being an adult and focus more on learning and growing.
    I’m not going to lie though, when I started obsessing over the cleanliness of my apartment, I knew I had taken the next step to growing up. 😛 Great post!

    1. So do I! I used to be a hoarder and still am to a certain extent but when it comes to clothes, I stopped accumulating them. Thank you for reading love ❤️

  10. Omg I can totally relate to this!! I remember when I was a kid I wished to be an adult and now that I am, I wish to be a kid 😂 there are def pros and cons of adulting. For me, I enjoy the freedom of going anywhere and traveling now as I wasn’t able to go out when I was a young girl (sexism)

    1. Girl, same! 😂 I wasn’t allowed to go out when I was young either and I’m not allowed to go out after a certain time even now. That’s Asian parents for you lol. Thank you so much for reading love ❤️

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