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How To Let Go Of Things And Free Yourself.

The art of letting go isn’t easy as you may think and it takes a lot of effort and hard work in order to practice it on an everyday basis. We all go through ups & downs but sometimes our emotions & feelings might not allow us to move forward and get some much needed closure. In today’s post, I wanted to share with you some tips on how to let go and free yourself. As always, if you are interested – keep on reading!

L’art du lâcher-prise n’est pas facile comme vous pouvez le penser et il faut beaucoup d’efforts et de travail acharné pour le pratiquer au quotidien. Nous traversons tous des hauts et des bas mais parfois nos émotions et nos sentiments peuvent ne pas nous permettre d’avancer et d’obtenir une fermeture bien nécessaire. Dans l’article d’aujourd’hui, je voulais partager avec vous quelques conseils pour lâcher prise et vous libérer. Comme toujours, si vous êtes intéressé, continuez à lire !

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KNOWING THAT YOU ARE NOT IN CONTROL

One of the biggest things that could help you when it comes to learning the art of letting go is knowing that you are not in control of anything in life whether it’s your education, career, relationships, partnerships, etc. It’s only when you try to control things from your end that things get tangled up and you feel restricted. As soon as you realise that life is unpredictable and no matter how hard you try to change it or not change it, it’s not going to have any impact whatsoever is the moment you will truly feel a weight off your shoulders.

L’une des choses les plus importantes qui pourraient vous aider lorsqu’il s’agit d’apprendre l’art de lâcher prise est de savoir que vous ne contrôlez rien dans la vie, que ce soit votre éducation, votre carrière, vos relations, vos partenariats, etc. Ce n’est que lorsque vous essayez de contrôlez les choses de votre côté que les choses s’emmêlent et que vous vous sentez limité. Dès que vous réalisez que la vie est imprévisible et peu importe à quel point vous essayez de la changer ou de ne pas la changer, cela n’aura aucun impact, c’est le moment où vous sentirez vraiment un poids léger sur vos épaules.

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MAKING PEACE WITH YOURSELF

Sometimes, you are the person that needs to make peace with yourself and not anybody else. You can’t let the actions of another person define yourself as a person. Getting closure is important but sometimes, it’s not given to you by a third party but by yourself.

Parfois, vous êtes la personne qui a besoin de faire la paix avec vous-même et avec personne d’autre. Vous ne pouvez pas laisser les actions d’une autre personne vous définir en tant que personne. Obtenir la fermeture est important mais parfois, cela ne vous est pas donné par un tiers mais par vous-même.

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LIVING IN THE MOMENT

Last but not least, the main part of letting go is to live in the moment. You can’t say that you’ve let go of things by constantly thinking about the past or worrying about the future. When you learn to enjoy the present, you will feel much more free & learn to appreciate this thing called life and that’s when you’ve truly let go of everything.

Enfin, la partie principale du lâcher-prise est de vivre dans l’instant. Vous ne pouvez pas dire que vous avez abandonné les choses en pensant constamment au passé ou en vous souciant de l’avenir. Lorsque vous apprenez à profiter du présent, vous vous sentirez beaucoup plus libre et apprendrez à apprécier cette chose appelée la vie et c’est là que vous aurez vraiment tout abandonné.

Related: How To Live Your 20s To The Fullest.


Thank you so much for reading! – xo N

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  1. It’s amazing how much control another person has over us if we let them. Our worth is not defined by what others think of us! It takes me back to a couple months ago when a so-called blogger (not a friend anymore) said some really nasty things to me in an email after she blocked me on all social media platforms. She called me a bad mother and that my kids will grow up hating me because I’m a bully apparently, and “the most hypocritical lifestyle blogger ever” (say what now?). She was so rude in this email and she called me a name caller. But what I see here is a nasty, rude email which was the only closure I got.

    I still think about her to this day (she’s on WP and it’s impossible to forget her completely) but I’m slowly learning to let it go. I still can’t believe how mean some people can be when they appear to be so kind and friendly.

    1. Oh my god, I’m so sorry to hear that. It was disrespectful and uncalled for. The fact that you considered her as a friend and she let out those words is just mind boggling to me. It’s so true when people say don’t judge a book by its cover.

    2. I’m trying to forget about her but it’s hard. Her name shows up on other blogs that I read. Blocking on WP doesn’t solve this issue. I noticed that she deleted every comment I ever left on her blog and I thought about doing the same, but what good would that do? You can only do so much to “erase” someone from your memories.

      A lot of bloggers think she’s so kind, sweet, and caring. It’s amazing what kind of persona people choose to display on social media compared to what they’re actually like in person. I figured that I’m better off focusing on my writing (mostly for Medium). I’ve been surprisingly productive with writing this month d/t less distractions so at least there’s that.

      Thank you for replying and checking in on me. That made my day!

    3. I completely relate to that feeling, unfortunately even if you block a specific website/user, the chances are that you might come across their profile once in a while if the both of you share the same audience or the same following which makes it difficult to move past everything.

      At the end of the day, you have to prioritise your well being. Follow what you are doing and don’t let those distractions have an impact on your writing and the things you enjoy doing. At least you don’t have to put an online persona and stay true to yourself which is what matters because pretending to be someone you are not requires a lot of time, effort and work.

      You’re most welcome 🙂

    4. I actually found her full name online this morning, after searching for a couple of months. She’s been trying to hide her real name by staying mostly anonymous online, but a quick Google search directed me to it this morning which surprised me. I saw her full name after she tried to edit out her last name. I guess Google didn’t get the memo yet lol

      I did a little research to see where her firey, quick-tempered anger and rudeness may have stemmed from and I think I have a clearer picture now. We are on opposite political sides of the spectrum and that could have had something to do with it, even though I don’t try to bring up politics (I couldn’t care less about politics tbh but I live with a family who is really into politics). I do occasionally interacted with political tweets on Twitter and I think that triggered her. At the time I didn’t know that replies/tweets to other ppl show up in in the newsfeed (I’m still learning the ropes of Twitter). But honestly, to this day I don’t know the full reason other than “I’m a name caller and that’s offensive” (um, okay… since when do I unapologetically call people names?) Anyways, It’s crazy how politics and beliefs can tear apart friendships. I’m trying not to take the rejection so personally but it’s hard.

      You are absolutely right. I have a very strong sense of self. I know who I am as a person and I will stick to my roots, while continuing to be as honest and transparent as possible, even if that means being vulnerable at times, and losing friends along the way. We can’t control what other ppl think and do. All that we can control is ourselves. 🧘‍♀️

  2. Excellent advice. I’m one to freak out when I’m not in charge. Sometimes I feel helpless. And enjoying the moment? Let’s just say I’m still working on that. Thank you 😊

  3. Thank you for this reminder of what it is we need to let go of….people, places, and things aren’t in this world to live up to our expectations. We are setting ourselves up for disappointment if we expect the world to be exactly the way that we’d like it. We have to let go of our expectations of the world being any particular way and need to accept and respond to what does show up in our lives, for we have created a space for it all. – David

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