Do Long Distance Relationships Work?

{AD} As I’m diving into the dating world right now, I’ve been asking a lot of questions to myself and one of them was about long distance relationships. Personally, I can see myself doing long distance and I think it would work for me. A number of my friends have had long distance relationships and ended up moving in together with their significant other a couple of years  down the line and some of them even got married so I don’t think it’s entirely impossible to do long distance.

However, a long distance relationship requires a lot more time and effort as opposed to a traditional relationship in sense of both parties living in the same city. I knew so many couples who lived very close to each other and felt like they were doing long distance because they didn’t see each other that often.

I definitely think it’s based on the two persons and their personalities, morals and values because there are so many things to take into consideration when you are dating someone who resides in another city or even in another country. In today’s post, I want to share with you some things to take into consideration if you are doing long distance or are dating someone who doesn’t live in the same city as you as well as an insight of how my dating life is going (lol).

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DATING SOMEONE LIVING THOUSAND MILES AWAY FROM YOU

Starting off with how my dating life is going since it’s related to the topic of this blog post. I know what you might be wondering how does long distance and my dating life relates to one another and the answer is people who are interested in starting a relationship with me (to say in a diplomatic way) usually live far away than me and I mean very far away..

I don’t know if it’s my luck or the universe trying to say something but in case if I do start a relationship with someone who resides in another city/town other than mine, I’m actually okay about the idea of doing long distance. To be completely honest, I really love the idea of having a long distance relationship because it gives you the opportunity to be independent and have your alone time while still having someone. You will literally both grow as a person and find out who you truly are in a way.

This teaches you to trust each other and makes the time you spend together more valuable. You literally get the best of both worlds. You are in a relationship but at the same time you are still the person who you used to be. I’m not saying that you can act “single” if the other person isn’t next to you, on the contrary this is a great opportunity to find out if the other person is the one. Plus, I’m not saying that you change when you get into a relationship but some people do change and start leaving their friends for someone they only met a couple of weeks ago.

In addition, if you feel attracted to other people or if you are questioning if that person is right for you, even though they are living thousand miles away from you then probably that person isn’t the one. I think that’s one of the reasons why some people are put off by the idea of doing long distance and think it won’t really work out. It can be hard to date someone when you see them on an everyday basis so not knowing what they are really thinking or doing and only seeing them through a screen might not be the ideal option nor situation.

If you don’t see yourself dating someone living farther away from you, check dating websites that are purely based on a city for example the Aberdeen Dating Site or the Date Aberdeen Singles website. Both of those websites are for people who are looking to build genuine relationship in Aberdeen. There is even a dating website for mature people such as Mature Aberdeen Dating, so you can definitely find dating websites specifically based on a city regardless of your age.

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THE 3 KEY ELEMENTS FOR A LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP

Correct me if I’m wrong but I think dating someone in another part of the world or doing long distance requires a lot more time and effort than a “normal” relationship. From the simplest to the most important things, you always have to put extra work. Although it might be difficult at the beginning, I think with time and eventually when you think about the future, things will get a tiny bit easier.

For any relationships, compatibility is so important. I don’t think it’s always about having the same interests or hobbies but more about being respectful to each other even if you both have different values or morals.

The same goes for communication. You have to be genuine about your feelings and thoughts. If you think something is not going to work out, be upfront about it. Honesty is another important element, if you are not honest about what you are saying; it can be hard to build trust and love.

I would rather someone hurt me with their truth than betray me with their lies. Obviously each relationship works differently and I’m yet to start one but I would love to know if you have done long distance and what would your tips or advice be about this subject.

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THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR READING!

xo N

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